Recent content by nixndrew

I'm in a V...husband and boyfriend. Boyfriend just broke up with me because he wants me exclusively. I can't be with him exclusively and he can't accept that. He broke up with me tonight and my heart is shattered :( </3

Wow. We're also new to poly, but we've been swinging for years. We've always had respect for each other and our relationship to listen when the other partner is feeling uncomfortable. It hasn't always been easy. If the guy is as big a toolbag as you think, she may just realize she doesn't...

Hey Kamala, Yeah, some new developments. We talked and worked out alot of our fears and goals. We decided to focus on the relationship aspect of us, so sex is taking a slight backseat. And I'm okay with that, because I really like him and want to see our relationship blossom a bit more. So...

Thanks! I have been reading and reading...for too many hours, LOL.

Update: we talked it out and he actually felt a little off too. I like him so much (and I'm really scared that I love him) and I freaked out. Gosh, this is such new territory. Sigh.

Great point. We were both having off nights this week, anyway. So I'll pick it back up again next week and see how we feel. Good advice. Thanks, nycindie.

I just wasn't sure if that was a clear sign that it's not going to work. I'm not a very patient person, and I've been out of this dating game since high school. It's exciting and scary. Thanks for the advice, Kamala. I'll give it some time. How often do you see your boyfriend? And yes...

Go to the pharmacy and get plan b.

Yes, I do still have that spark with the hubby. But it's different. It comes and goes... It's more of a deep love and friendship than an intense sexual chemistry, if that makes sense.

Hey all! New to poly. Been married 5 years. Just started dating a guy 6 weeks ago. Here's the deal... It's been nothing but roller-coaster emotions with the new boyfriend. There was an immediate sexual spark. There was a brief infatuation period. Then there was the "OMG I'm in love" period...

Hey everyone! I'm writing to you from my frozen little Igloo (not literally) in Alaska. I'm Nix, the female half of a 5 year marriage. We're both 27, high school sweethearts. We've been swinging for a couple years, been open to poly for a year, and now we're finally officially poly :D I'm...

Hi everyone! 26 yo married couple from Alaska. We're new to poly and to this site. We've been swinging for awhile, but realized we want more than just casual sex with strangers (which is how most swingers transition over to poly, from what I hear). So, hiiiiii everyone! :)