Recent content by NovemberRain

Now I'm annoyed. Now I'm really fucking annoyed. Can just catch a damn break in this crap? My stepdad is dying. And the particulars are so weird I can't even write them here. I'm in a world of lack of information, which doesn't help anything. I gave myself a head cold over it. And my...

What a delightful story! I'm so glad you shared it...started it...made a blog. Such a pleasure to see your joy. Also, just wanted to mention that there actually are professional cuddlers. Google 'professional cuddler' and see! :D

In other news, I'm going to be needing to do a bunch of radical self-love. I think he's actually moving in with me. eeep! :eek: He's threatened to more than once over the years. He mutters about going broke and ending up sleeping on my couch. I told my friend I think he said it to scare...

Wait, you are one of us? Did I miss this? :) How did I miss this? The mole in question was under my panty line. Around the same latitude as my hysterectomy scar, but further to the right side. So, a challenging area to heal. It's not raised or lumpy at all. Just darker than most of my...

What GalaGirl said. What I say is DTMF and fast. He isn't interested in gaining your trust. He isn't interested in keeping his agreements. My father used to tell me: 'people vote with their feet.' His feet are not voting in your direction. All his words of you being 'enough' do not match...

oh, and MeeraReed, the mole was nothing. Thirteen freakin' stitches for NOTHING. It was just under the top of my bikini line, so it took forever to heal. It's actually still purple which I think is not good, but no one seems to think a thing about it. I had gone in to Dermatology because I...

I'm so touched by your replies, thank you. When I was a kid, in my dysfunctional family of origin, I was the 'lost child.' I was actually all of them, because I was an only child - but lost child was my deep comfort zone. And I frequently forget that now. Until someone 'sees' me. I am...

oh but wait, there's moar! In August, I had a mole checked, and the doc called to say the biopsy was 'weird.' Yes, actually said weird. I told him, 'that would be MY biopsy then. Weird is what my body does.' But they had to excise it - freaking 13 stitches! Office procedure, but annoying...

omigosh, Kevin! I remember when you arrived here at polyamory.com. I'm so glad I got to read this. I knew the tiniest part of your story. So so sweet to read about your loves and your life. Last time I was really here, you were still in the sunshine. I'm going this memorial day to take my...

My dream life looks a LOT like JaneQSmythe's real life. :) <3 That said, I approach it more like nycindie - based on the situation, what I know, etc. That said, I like this for a question: What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

I love to flirt also. I think if the people you flirt with are friends, and you're unsure, it would totally be consensual-hot if you would just ask. 'You know, I'm learning a lot about consent, and I'd like to ask you how you feel about our flirty conversation. Is it okay with you, or would...

Well, then. Now it's been even longer. My 'been through a lot' did not end there. :P About the time I was getting diagnosed (it's all a blur), I started having a weird tingling in my face. It felt cool and wet, like I had drooled - but it was dry. It came and went and I couldn't get any of...

Annabel, I'm so grateful that you've shared your experience, in your journal, and in this thread. It's good to be reminded that other people can be friends with people they've stopped having as lovers. Deep, loving friends. My meatspace people have a hard time understanding why my...

Hi! (sorry, not up to proper quoting tonight) 1. First of all, with the moving in stuff... we are working on a pro and con list. Do you have any thoughts on how to know if it's a good idea to move in together? How much of the future do you really need to think about? The next year, 5 years? I...

Hi opalescent :) I doubt it would suit me either. FWIW, I am also an only child. Well, I didn't get my siblings until I was a teen, via my dad's second marriage. My partner is an extreme introvert. I figured when I had the two of them, I might get enough attention. (it didn't work out so...