Recent content by Piroska

So it sounds like it's egalitarian inside of the established relationships - that each of you have some measure of control regarding each others' dating and so on - but in some ways it sounds a lot like a 'couple privilege' - only more like 'family privilege'. If one of your existing partners...

If you don't mind me asking here, how do you reconcile the relationship being D/s with it being an egalitarian relationship? Please correct me if I am wrong, but it seems from your description that N8 and Tighearn are the masters/dominants of the family. Do either of them have any authority over...

Thanks. I did read the linked articles and previously read the one in your signature. A lot of that stuff is, like it says in the first article, stuff that should be happening in any relationship, which is what I think too. I guess some of the things like that are what Lee was talking about when...

I think for me personally, I could not have a long distance relationship as a primary relationship. I like the idea of relationship triage - I think that happens anyway, in hierarchical poly relationships, or I would hope it does. There was a time a few months back when I was processing a...

I also like to separate monoamorous from monogamous. Agree that the connotation is different from most people between monogamy and polygamy, but it does make sense that the former should be used more narrowly and the later more broadly. Polyamory as an orientation as distinct from a practice...

This is similar to my story - not quite the same, I knew I was bisexual and kinky before my husband met me, but his side is similar. He struggled a lot with me wanting more, once I discovered that poly was a thing and not just something wrong with me, and I started to ask for it. Kinky play...

Is poly about sex? I don't think so. It's my understanding that the name - polyamory - many loves - was created to distinguish multiple loving relationships from other forms of non-monogamy, some of which may be mostly or all about sex with multiple people. If you remove the sex, do you...

Wow. Sorry to hear that!! The rest of your reply is really interesting. That is a salient point about how being obligated WITH someone is not the same as being obligated TO them. I agree, I think most people conflate the two. Out of curiosity, if you feel like answering, after your move...

My initial response was - of course. But then, I don't have a particular tie to any particular geography or place, my career can be done from anywhere, and I've always been the submissive one in my long term relationships. The more I thought about it though, I wondered how that would work in...

A friend of mine recently posted something to summarize his definitions of primary/secondary/tertiary in polyamorous relationships. I know most of you don't practice hierarchical poly, but for those who do, I was curious to discuss. It was: Imagine we've been in a relationship for a year then...

I really like that. Short, simple, too the point, no need to explain anything further unless they ask what your version of non-exclusive dating looks like.

I have heard anecdotally that when there's a question of parenting children, getting legally married, technically divorcing, and then legally marrying another partner is a way provide paperwork and give some legal standing to the various parents in a polygamous relationship. And not run afoul of...

exozune - What you're going through is very similar to what Guy (my husband) went through. He's had my permission to pursue other relationships since we got together, about 15 years ago. For the first 9 or 10 of that he wasn't really interested in seeking anything out - partially a holdover...

jayblue122 - here's a hug for icky situations. (hug). I don't think that Ellen is going to be interested in a poly situation any time soon, if ever. From my biased opinion, it sounds like Ellen is not very compatible with Dan; but that's a decision he'll have to make. I think part of it...

Thanks, Kevin. GreenMom - yeah, I'm running into that, how hard it is just to hold a conversation with him. He's putting distance between us - we usually see each other friday, and while it super super hurt when he said no, he didn't want to see me tomorrow, even just as friends... it probably...