Recent content by Raven

Hi all :) This isn't exactly a poly situation, but I'm thinking it should go here - it seems to me to deal with a lot of the same issues that come up on a lot of other "new to poly" threads. Background: you can read the old threads here http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3831 and...

Just my two cents: I would imagine that even if he's still head-over-heels in love with you, he's extremely reluctant to reveal that and invest in this relationship because he's (justifiably) terrified that just when he needs you, you'll disappear again. Personally, what I would recommend is...

Just had my first "intake" appointment with the school counselors. It was a bit easier to talk to the guy than I had expected - he was fairly good at just starting out asking random questions to get me talking until I was a bit relaxed. Poly didn't come up; I told him about being stressed last...

So I *thought* I was doing better... :rolleyes: Yesterday was Beth's birthday. Our friend, V, went to Beth's birthday party. The day before yesterday I was missing Beth, and sad, and got crabby at Mal. Yesterday, I missed her so bad that I was near tears all morning - I couldn't concentrate...

It might be worth looking at the idea that you *did* fulfill all of her needs for those six years. If there's a need she has that she knows you can't meet, she may have just been working to deal without it, especially in a marriage where the assumption is monogamy. There may have even been...

I had a dream about Beth last night. I dreamt that she came by, and wanted me to sign a contract that I'd never contact her again, except I was allowed to write in exceptions for when she could contact me... In my dream, Beth kept trying to pretend that everything was going great and she was...

Not a whole lot happening in my life... I'm working on a grant application for the research I do at school, and trying to keep up with studying in general. I'm continuing to make more friends, slowly but surely; I'm involved with the club that I went to last semester and applying for a...

General update... Life is just kind of chugging along. Our ex-roommate (I'll call her V) is staying with us, she's had some issues with her mom (her mom is diagnosed schizophrenic and known to be violent, so I don't blame her at all). She didn't have many good places to go, so we invited her...

I haven't been on here or OKC much for a while - mostly I've been busy out doing things, which is a good change of pace. :) My grades came in better than expected (one A, two Bs, and a C+). It's still my worst-ever semester by far (the second worst would be two B+s and two As), but it's...

Thanks for all the replies :) I think, if I don't hear back from the girl at the video store, I'll just play it by ear the next time I go to rent a movie. If she looks unhappy or "deer in the headlights," then I'll just go about my business as if I never heard of her outside of renting movies...

A couple online dating etiquette ?s I've come up on a couple of questions that I'm not sure how to handle on OKC. Hoping for some advice. :) The first question is a little convoluted... I started messaging someone and later recognized her as someone who works at the (family, not adult)...

I got so wrapped up in why I want to have kids that I forgot to ask: How does it relate to your choice to be poly? How does it enrich or make more difficult your poly life? For me, the choices are related. Part of why I choose to be polyamorous is because I'm coming to believe that the more...

Why have children? I've read through the child-free thread, and decided to start one for those of us who want to have kids. I don't have any kids at the moment, but I plan on one or two at some point in the future (fingers crossed, after graduate school). Why I want to have children: I think...

Loneliness, self-consciousness, and Mal Last night I was really struggling with loneliness. We had some issues yesterday morning (car troubles) that really brought home to me that I don't have any good friends in the area. And, the first person I'd been really in-depth messaging on OKC hasn't...

A bit of weirdness on OKC - I messaged someone that has a lot of interests in common with me, she messaged me back, etc. She looked vaguely familiar, but that happens to me a lot and I didn't think much of it. Showed her picture to Mal earlier today, and he's like "I know that girl." We're...