Recent content by Ravenesque

Who's going to the Tenth Annual Poly Pride Event in NYC? :) Looks like it's going to be fun! It'd be great to catch up with some of you there. The event is hosted every year by Polyamorous NYC. The link is here: http://www.poly-nyc.com Info from their Facebook and website: Polyamorous NYC is...

"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing." - Albert Einstein

Nothing is more dangerous than a dogmatic worldview. -Stephen Jay Gould ~Raven~

ImaginaryIllusion, you suggest looking in the mirror to others. Perhaps you should practice that little nugget. This is utterly irrelevant. The volume of expressed agreement in relation to expressed disagreement does not lend validity to anything, whether that be a person or his point of view...

*hugs* I think I write this emote with more emotion than usual. I do think we will meet and I am glad our paths crossed here. The internet sometimes does have a way of bringing kindred spirits together. Love and Light ~Raven~

"If it is true that there are as many minds as there are heads, then there are as many kinds of love as there are hearts" – Tolstoy ~Raven~

^ This. *sighs* Thank you Ceoli. Back to work. ~Raven~

I love the pictures and the lyrics :D ~Raven~

I find this compelling. It is beyond me why it is such a frequent occurrence for some to cry out "you're attacking me" and/or "you're judging me" when no personal references were made. Only ideas were being exchanged. In addition to this, I marvel at how easily some fall into condemning others...

My newest UU experience Hi katharinerose and everyone! We visited another UU church a few weeks ago. The church itself is much brighter. More windows and more sunlight. The people are still very friendly. My love felt a few were "close-talkers" a la Seinfeld. This would be true. Oddly, as in...

I agree. A culture issue which encompasses the moderators as well as the members. ~Raven~

Putting this in context and keeping on subject, how would this address perpetuating hurtful behavior which is sanctioned as necessary by many within the poly community in regards to primary/secondary dynamics? I do not see how choosing not to care or feel anything about the oppression people...

This is very pertinent. Poly people seeking advice could very well follow the advice of some who recommend prescriptive rules in their relationships and condone the concept of treating newer partners as lesser beings than partners from pre-existing relationships, as well as treating current...

You often take this route when called on your own negativity. In this instance, your blatant divisive point that only some members who left were "good." You even took the extra effort to italicize and underline. When asked to clarify, no response. It's bullshit. Now you take care :) ~Raven~

That leads to a rather circular discussion involving subjectivity. The term is "double standard." And when it comes to subjectivity, the playing field is the property of the moderators here. This includes the belief that some forms of insulting someone are better than other forms. Snideness...