Recent content by riftara

I have no intention of "making him poly." He wants to be accepting and make things work. I just needed some help with how to help him. And everyone was right. I needed a reminder that all I can do is answer his questions, assure him, and do what he wants that I feel comfortable doing.

Thanks. I love when you give the advice that people really need to hear.

My new boyfriend is likely monoamorous, and he is having issues with polyamory. He is trying to accept it. Can anyone give me some advice on how to handle this, or what I can do to help?

For us, we set aside an hour a day that is just us, and there is no txting anyone during that time, its something we worked out because we were both feeling ignored. It was a boundary we both needed to set. Now, we also have an agreement to "check in" about every four hours while we are out...

So, the guy I was talking to, the one that I said might just be a friend, we are together now. I actually think I'm in the early stages of love. He's awesome, and a more perfect complement to John than anyone before. This is what I've been looking for so long, trying and failing and getting...

the questions were mostly about how its works and what ifs like what about stds? Or what if you got pregnant or he made another girl pregnant? stuff like that. Absolutely no hostility toward us, or if there was, it didnt come out to us. The major people of the church all congratulated me and...

I gave a speech/sermon/presentation today at my UU community. It was well received!! Everyone said "interesting" or "great speech" or whatever and we had a great forum after where we answered questions candidly and had a few laughs. I'm so proud of myself for making it through my first public...

Poly presentation!!! I'm going to double post this here and in the Spirituality forum. I gave a speech/sermon/presentation today at my UU community. It was well received!! Everyone said "interesting" or "great speech," or whatever, and we had a great forum afterwards, where we answered...

Why? I'm talking to a new guy, but it's nothing serious. We may turn out to be just friends. But my crush on Marina is driving me crazy. We went out tonight and talked for five hours, sharing stories about our families and lives. I wanted to kiss her goodbye SO BAD, but I respect that she has...

I will, GG! Thanks for the reply. :)

If I read your post correctly, you and she have never had alone time? This is a red flag to me. I had a boyfriend, and we had a female friend that we had a threesome with. The next thing, she wants to be with "both of us." But she and I were never alone. They were alone quite often. He started...

I'm currently a stay-at-home mom with no driver's license. It expired, and I haven't gotten it redone yet. John works 6pm to 6am, and sleeps from 7am to 2pm. Marina goes to school and works an odd schedule. Time management is going to be enough of a hassle without me having to leave (i.e...

BoringGuy, I read this board about every day, I just dont post often. I'm finishing up my presentation and realized I had no community input. I also didnt want to take anyone's words without permission.

I'm actually starting yoga back up tomorrow. I could do it in the living room while they are together. It might help a lot.

John had started dating Marina, and I really like her. In fact, I have a crush on her. She says that she wants to try a relationship with me "eventually." We have kissed several times, held hands and such, but nothing more. That's not really the point of this though. I'm having anxiety attacks...