Recent content by SkeeterV

My wife, Flea has a boyfriend. They've been an item for a while now. She started her relationship with him before we were poly. In fact, when I found out about them, she told me she was in love with both of us and didn't want to give up either one. That's when I started to do some research...

I think I over reacted a little. Everything is fine. We've been talking and she has proclaimed her feelings for me. The trip is still on. I guess the question in my original post has been answered. Thank you all for your support and encouragement. Time to start a new thread I suppose.

Oh, shit. Maybe things went too fast. She emailed me tonight and asked if I'm still in love with Flea, and said, “getting emotionally involved with someone I can't have is unhealthy for me.” How do I explain that she can “have” me? The only barrier here is that we live so far away. Lots of...

Holy cow! The last few days have been wild. She emailed me back and told me she had been thinking about what I had said, and then we talked on the phone for EIGHT HOURS!! I don’t even like to talk on the phone. Anyway, to make a long story short, I'm flying out to Boston after Thanksgiving...

Update! What a crazy week this has been. I read on here about the "poly rollercoaster" and now i know what that means. No, I didn’t say boyfriend. But the fact that my wife is spending four days in another state with another man, I figured would be enough to start the questions rolling. It...

I didn't come up with those names, they did. Those are what they call each other. Actually "Kat" isn't a bad name, she has three of them.

Well, quick update. I let her know that Flea was going to spend a week with her friend. I figured that she would ask me if I was jealous, or worried, and I would use that as a starting point. But she just let it fly by like I never told her that my wife was staying overnight, in another...

Probably the best advice...ever. Thanks, redpepper. That’s what I'm trying to avoid. I am really enjoying getting to know her again and want the friendship to continue. Now I just have to find a way to work it into the conversation. We only email like once or twice a day, because of our...

San Deigo county. She had an uncle when she was little that would say. “Laura Lee, no bigger than a flea.” So Little Flea is one of her nicknames. She calls her boyfriend Puppy, so that gives you a little insight into there relationship.:confused:

Sorry TL4everu2, but she's from California. That's pretty close to Ohio, right?

That’s exactly what I'm trying to avoid. LOL! :D My wife (I'll call her Flea from here on out to cut down on confusion) said something similar. Her BF lives in another state, and she’s going to spend some time with him in a week or so. Flea suggested I tell her about the trip as a good way...

Thanks for the advice TL4everu2. The old "I've got a friend” act. It might take some finagling to fit it into the conversation, but I'll try to think of a good segue into it. Not to pry, but how well did it work for you?

I'm definitely not known for my subtlety. Hopefully someone can give me few hints on that. I think maybe I'm afraid of water. ;) You're probably right, testing the waters is the right idea. Can I start out with just my toe?

I am absolutely TERRIFIED of "bringing things up".:) Just to clarify, she hasn’t brought up being intimate with me yet. The conversations about being “intimate friends”, and having a threesome, happened when we were dating years ago.

Hi, ray. My wife is absolutely on board. She thinks i should tell bring it up ASAP. I have never been very good at dating, and having been out of the game for so long WITH the added new aspect of being poly, i just thought it would be in my best interest to get as much objective input as i can.