Recent content by smiler

Before I first met my BF's wife, he said "This will be as weird as you make it", and he was right. We just made it light and easy and it worked out. I think the outcome is in your own hands. Let it be easy, and it will be.

Speaking as someone in a sole relationship with someone who has a primary partner, here would be my $0.02. Hope it helps. Do's Assume good intentions - Most secondaries get into this with their eyes wide open. Share anxieties and worries from both sides. All parties can probably all make...

Thanks, everyone. The replies helped a lot, and actually put me back in line a little. The questions around what specific issues I wanted to talk about were interesting. Because, as I thought about it, I realized that there are no major open issues. Time is a sore subject because there just...

Just curious to see if other people have had this issue. How do you get the balance right between open, honest, transparent communication about issues and restricted time to spend together. My BF and I are still working on establishing the right rhythm for us i.e. how often we manage see...

That's true. Now that I've given it more thought, you're right. Lots of positive framing of the word "solo" as well - like "flying solo", being a "soloist" at a concert etc. So, it's not a biggie. I need to go check out your blog!

Ah, sorry. I missed the question. Nope, it's just me. And my new p/t boyfriend. But I don't feel like I'm "single" because I am in a relationship, and "solo" sounds isolated, which I'm not... All semantics. :)

I don't know what the name for it is, but I consider myself to have a non-exclusive boyfriend.

Disclaimer: I am new to all of this, but am willing to share my experience so far. - I am out to some of my close friends and a couple of colleagues who are close friends. I've also told my sisters, but not my parents or any ther family members. That's unlikely to change. - No issues so far...

Yep, I'll be nervous about meeting her, but I really think it will make things easier in the long run. Honestly, I just hope she likes me. Keeping everything crossed for that. :)

Thanks, JaneQ. We've had a couple of bumps, but overall - so far, so good. I'm excited to see what comes.

Thanks for the welcome note. I have met his wife once; we deliberately kept it brief and it was just introductions and a quick hello at an event we were all at (them with their friends, me with mine). It went really well and was very informal and relaxed. We plan to meet up again in a more...

Hi all, Well, I'm new to this whole thing but I'm excited to be here and I have already learned lots browsing through the forums here. A little about me: I'm a 32 yr old female. I've been single for a couple of years and have had lots of issues building relationships. Mostly, this is...