Recent content by soleilselene

It has been a long time since I posted anything. Life has been busy. Got a new job and moved so I have not been able to see my friend with benefits in a while. Haven't had sex with my husband since January of 2012. It seems like I will never have sex with my hubby again. I am not sex...

Well I got tested for EVERYTHING and came back negative. So that was a relief. They are doing free testings at Planned Parenthood during the month of April here, so I brought it up to my partners.

And I have started to care about my partner. We get along very well and have so much in common. So in the end, it is not only about sex.

I might sound like I am being dismissive, when in reality it is the opposite. The fact that my partner is paranoid about it makes me paranoid about it. I have always been tested and have only had HPV. I was asymptomatic when I got it. I have not had sex except with my monogamous husband in 5...

So, "The Talk." I've had it, and, according to everyone, they are all clear to go. I just wondered how you guys go about getting tested for STDs and such? I get insurance next month and that will be my first stop. I tested positive for HPV about 7 years ago, and that has been it. Recently my...

Thanks Shrodingers Cat! It just seems like every time I join a group or whatever there is someone saying I don't belong. The story of my life. I was in a childfree group and since my husband has a kids I was told I wasn't child free. Then the other issue I had was that I sometimes did want...

My guy friend told me that what I have is a monogomish marriage. Is there any support groups for that? Is this the right place or not?

It depends I myself have issues and have always been attracted to those with issues. I just get tired of all the drama it sometimes bring. I have had my share of interesting I just want something more calm now. I know I cannot handle stress. I used to be in an extremely abusive...

So my hookup, let's call him D, just really didn't work for a long term thing. He responds to my text days later and just claims he leaves his phone at home... Ok, fine I got over it. On to the next. I had been chatting with guys on OkCupid and I was very apprehensive about it all since the...

Well, for the most part, you are right, but my husband did not give me the ultimatum that he would leave if he learns about it. That is not us. He simply doesn't want to know. Most of the people I have meet are keeping it from their families and friends because they do not want to be judged. I...

He kind of doesn't want to know that something is happening, but it is because of his issues with sex. When we did have sex, it was with the lights off, missionary style, and it was always the same. At times it was very awkward. I know he has had times when he is horny. I really don't know what...

My husband simply just doesn't want to know. He has always had issues with sex and sexuality. I don't see why I should fit the cookie-cutter recipe of other relationships when we simply aren't the same. Our situation is different. My husband was date raped and he just never really likes to talk...

Yes, I figured it would not be a good idea. I would hate it for others to know about it.

Well a little info first. I'm in an open marriage because my husband won't ha e sex with me. I have permission to find someone that can help me satisfy my needs. Well there is a new coworker at my job. He was incredibly nice to me (it might just be his personality) buy every time I see him he...

Also he told me he wouldn't ask, or question. We don't have sex, so nothing would change there. He really doesn't want to know. I even told him about something once. I was frustrated thinking I would never be able to do this. I had gone on OKCupid and tried to find someone. I met a couple of...