.....your quote about not wanting to be defined.
I think that there are questions that are really just trying to put people in boxes. One of them is "how old are you?" If a person said that they were 12 or 90 and the questioner believed this, then they would start treating that person as a 12 or...
Hey, you could be a witch with all of those vines and a house built into the hill, perhaps brewing up a potion that would make someone kind and caring, loving even. You could do good work there. Maybe you could create a nice garden as a bonus for yourself.