Thank you! I have many many things going through my head but have not posted. I also come to poly a little differently than the majority, that I don't nor does dh, have someone else in mind to act on these emotions. The bf situation is slightly different, we are all together (only with bf once alone) &have developed a very close friendship with him. But "love" has been compartmentalized for the time being so any NRE is on the back burner. The strangest thing with this open honesty, poly & comprrsion is making dh & I more in love with each than we were 19 years ago. It is definitely an awesome feeling.