Recent content by Velvet

I'm wondering if I tell people at work that I'm sterile, will they stop bringing up baby talk at every opportunity? After drinking too much coffee this morning I asked my boss if I could leave early because I felt sick from coffee. It was a slow day she said yes. I let my coworker know I'm...

I left a cliffhanger in that last post... I wanted to mention how I discovered polyamory as a way of life. Between 2006 and 2007 I left Ave because I thought my feelings for other people (BB in particular) made me a bad person.I thought I must have been born to lie and cheat so I left Ave...

no one said this yet? hee hee Naked Lunch & also Kissing Cousins

Some baggage... I feel very fortunate that I have never had to date anyone in "the real world". The last time I dated anyone new, was shortly after graduating High School. My best friend from school! How I came to date someone whom I had always had a crush on, but never thought would date me...

Part 2-My first love BB --PART TWO After that he talked to me many times that I don't have any obligation to him, and he encouraged me to try and like boys my own age. If I didn't love him anymore it would be ok. I adamantly dismissed his concerns, but I put them here so you could read...

Part 1-My first love BB My way of coming into Polyamory wasn't very smooth, and I hurt the people I care about the most. I never cheated, but if I had feelings probably would have been hurt just as bad. Super way too long story incoming! I feel like I have to write out this whole thing...

Thanks November Rain, and every one. I brought up the subject with Ave. Since I had only done a little bit of reading around we decided to take the advice of going through the process and trying things out together. Which should do a lot of good, we spend lots of time together and work well as...

Makes sense That does make sense. I may have over represented his insecurities. He must feel insecure a lot, but he hides it and it doesn't show much in his everyday life. I am one of the few people who he really let's his guard down around, and allows himself to be himself. Something we do as...

He has to help himself Cleo, Yes, he does have to help himself. I wish I could facilitate himself into helping himself. Without an ultimatum such as you went through. That sort of strategy from me 1) would be forced and ungenuine and 2) do more harm than good. Most of his insecurities are...

I only just was shown this website www.morethantwo.com Anyway, from the website, one of the articles was Relationship Assumptions. And one of the bad assumptions was "My partner is with me because I tricked him or her…". It must be almost every other day my partner Ave tells me this. Then I...

… StudentofLife, I'm glad you shared that 'more than two' website. I had not yet seen it linked within this forum yet either. Even though I have been sailing the poly seas for about six years now, I still second guess myself at everything and I don't feel like it's an old easy habit. And when...

Thanks, but I'm okay. My parents were always very controlling. But that is the highlight crazy moment in my experience. Usually my parents left me alone and didn't give me much attention. I knew it was weird then, and now, but I've actually been able to get past that and have a fairly good...

Just the idea of it... Since a lot of this thread's postings are about how parents involve/influence/intrude/whatever on their children's lives, I wanted to answer this. More so on when my parents thought I first started being sexual. When I was 14, I was in a sort of long-distance...

Feel free to use my post. I definitely respect the privacy of my lover, but it does occur to me there is no obligation to "tell" in our relationship. I didn't word it as well in my first post. If telling happens it is voluntary. And it is likely there are people I haven't been told about and I...

Reading this thread made me realize I pretty much have a "don't ask, don't tell" guideline in my relationships. As metamours, the two men I am with only know what sort of contraception/STD prevention safety is being practiced, well, and I guess that there is physical intimacy. Aside from that, I...