I'm perfectly aware that people have feelings, I'm also aware that the people they behave unreasonably towards also have feelings. When you post on a forum, people give you advice from their perspective, what you saw/see was/is my perspective. I cannot help it if people are used to sugar coating things with psycho babble that avoids the actual issues and promotes the often undesirable behaviour they display to others. You can be one of those people. I choose not to be.