Recent content by xxgoodtimescouple

Last night was the party. Before meeting his GF, D dropped me off at a store I needed to buy something from. He asked, "How are you feeling? Is the pot bubbling over?" meaning, was I feeling angry / frustrated / sad / jealous / insecure. I answered, "I'm a little jealous, nothing that won't blow...

We saw my therapist together today. It was a bit of a blackmail because he wanted me to wake up super-early and help him really clean the house. I said no way was I going to make an effort that early in the morning, unless he made an effort for something I really wanted: attend a counseling...

Things have improved slightly, although I'm finding the journey difficult still. He understands the boundaries I have expressed. Some of them he is in complete agreement with. Others are still up in the air. He recently expressed that he felt bad for me because I hadn't asked for any of this. I...

Why I'm here: I'm a mono, my BF and I were casually poly until last year, when he fell in love and acquired a girlfriend. It's been a bumpy ride since they started seeing each other. I'm dealing with my feelings of jealousy, anger, plus my low sex drive at home (not with other guys, though)...

I'm really glad you wrote about what it's like to want to be free, and at the same time loving your partner so much you suppress parts of yourself. You made me realize that the things I have been asking of my BF, who is poly-minded, are wrong. He is poly, nothing can change that. It's in his blood.

We tried swinging, too. Didn't suit me well. I have just entered a triad with my BF and his new girlfriend. Crossing my fingers we eventually gel.