Recent content by yakchef

Yeah I'm giving it two weeks before I make a decision. Thank you for listening, it is helpful.

Well. Here is an update. Therapy and meds have helped. I even got to go out on a date. It didn't go anywhere but that's ok. My partner suddenly has a new sweetie and seems to have found her sexuality again... though not with me. This will be the 6th night in a row she has been with him. I've...

Thank you for asking how you can help. I will be looking into SSRI's to manage my depression. If it also lowers my libido I imagine it will take the edge off my current situation. I will try to work out ways to grieve what was, and focus on what makes me happy in life. I do have things that make...

Nothing has improved. Her pain is the same if not worse. She is overwhelmed by treatment options because they just mean more appointments. Work is her priority and work uses up all her energy. In April her mom fell and broke her wrist and then got a brain/spinal infection so she had to go be...

Thank you, Studentforlife, I think it would be very helpful for me to talk with someone who goes through similar things with their partner. I definitely agree that talking about sex with my sweetie would be a BAD idea. Her view is that since we are poly, I should be able to get my needs met...

Thank you. I suppose I do feel emotionally rejected by her and sometimes resentful. I do know that she didn't choose this, and doesn't want or prefer to be in such pain. My depression is interfering with my ability to be a good support person. Last night she told me things would be so much...

My sweetie has anemia which makes her arthritis really bad. Her anemia is caused by huge fibroids in her uterus. She is having a hysterectomy Christmas Eve which I am worried about. I hope the surgery goes well and not bleeding so much in the future will allow her body to heal and cause her less...

Yes, I know I'm depressed. I'm in therapy and on meds. I struggle with depression anyway, and the work I do in that is ongoing. It's not something I "get better" from, it's something I deal with, and yes, the loss of sexual connection with my sweetie and repeated rejection in dating has made...

Due to health issues and chronic pain my sweetie and I no longer have sex. We have been dating for a year and a half and living together since late summer. I love her and am committed to her. I have so very many things I am grateful for in my life, and I want to focus my energy on being a good...

I'm sorry, I realize now that this isn't a polyamory issue at all, it's my own self-esteem issue. I shouldn't have posted this thread.

I straight up have asked her about this and she says no, that she doesn't stay with people she doesn't love. She does do chores around the house and she has gotten better about it. The laundry incident is more of a "wtf" moment than a status quo moment.

I think that's pretty much right on the nose. I do resent the money thing because she doesn't really respect or understand that it has been difficult me to adjust from 1 adult living on a modest salary in an expensive part of Seattle to 2 adults living on the same amount. She used to give me a...

CBT = Cognitive Behavioral Therapy DBT = Dialectical Behavioral Therapy We have talked about my feelings, that's the problem. It's not that she doesn't care, it's just that my feelings are irrational and it's like, jealousy and resentment shouldn't be indulged or validated, there shouldn't be...

Hello, I am having a big problem. I don't really know what to do. I'm having jealousy and trust issues with my girlfriend. We've been together for a bit over a year and live together. She is 27 and I am 32. This is her first relationship where her other partners have not been on the "DL," and...