Hi everyone, I’m new here as this is the only place I thought I could actually talk about all this without being judged.
I just need some advice or someone to talk to as I find myself in a situation.
so last year me( bi female) and my partner (James, straight male) of 10 years decided we wanted to spice up our sex lives by having a three way with another guy and this guy (who we will call Jamie) has become a close friend who we see and spend a lot of time with, not just sexually anymore. I talk to him daily, James knows everything we do, James doesn’t always join in when it comes to sex, he just likes to know what’s going on. But my problem is, is I’ve found myself falling for Jamie. I don’t know how to tell James I’m poly, as I’ve joked about it before and he shuts it down quickly. I just don’t think I can hide myself anymore, I just feel so sad living this lie. I know I adore and love James, he’s my everything and I can’t lose him. But the feelings I have for Jamie are so intense aswell.
I hope this kind of makes sense. I’m trying to make sense of it myself. I just don’t want anyone’s feelings to get hurt.
Thankyou if you read all of this x
I just need some advice or someone to talk to as I find myself in a situation.
so last year me( bi female) and my partner (James, straight male) of 10 years decided we wanted to spice up our sex lives by having a three way with another guy and this guy (who we will call Jamie) has become a close friend who we see and spend a lot of time with, not just sexually anymore. I talk to him daily, James knows everything we do, James doesn’t always join in when it comes to sex, he just likes to know what’s going on. But my problem is, is I’ve found myself falling for Jamie. I don’t know how to tell James I’m poly, as I’ve joked about it before and he shuts it down quickly. I just don’t think I can hide myself anymore, I just feel so sad living this lie. I know I adore and love James, he’s my everything and I can’t lose him. But the feelings I have for Jamie are so intense aswell.
I hope this kind of makes sense. I’m trying to make sense of it myself. I just don’t want anyone’s feelings to get hurt.
Thankyou if you read all of this x