What should I do to bring passion back to my married life?

halosins

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My husband and I have been married for quite a few years and things lately have gotten a little stale; we both work a lot and there doesn't seem to be a lot of passion left between us. I am looking for something we can do together to get us back to where we used to be. I was thinking of couples counseling but I don't know that it is too serious. We talked about having someone join us but I am honestly too worried that will damage the relationship, as we're both kind of jealous people lol.

I was thinking of asking him to try this game called Halos and Sins.


Is there anyone tried it or anything similar that worked for them?

Any and all suggestions appreciated!*
 
Welcome. Not sure about the game. If it leads to truthful discussion, awesome. How about just sit down and talk. Open dialogue. Don’t talk over each other. Find a talking pen. Whoever is holding the pen talks, when done pass it to the other. Talk about what you miss with each other as well as what you want. Throw in fantasies. This is not an hour deal. It didn’t take an hour to get where you are and it will take work getting back.
Best Wishes.
 
To a certain extent, established couples ebb and flow through times of feeling close and not so close. It doesn't mean there's doom. But if you haven't really been connecting for emotional intimacy, mental intimacy or physical intimacy? I'd start by looking and calendar and figuring out what you are spending your time on. And what can shift.

If you both are working a lot... when do you have time to rest? Go on couple dates whether out of the house or in the house? Having meaningful conversations? Or share some good sex rather than perfunctory sex or no sex at all?

We got to a stale point. It wasn't that there was anything WRONG per se.... just bandwidth being taken up by kids and elders and we didn't want to lose touch with each other.

Honestly? We had to power through the first few years and it did not get better til some of them died so our care load got a bit easier. We have an expanded family because of divorce and things. So we have extra elders from parents remarrying. It's not like my two parents and his two parents. There was way more.

We tried a few guided conversations from "Couples Therapy Workbook" by Kathleen Mates-Youngman which helped us remember and reconnect why we are together in the first place. The Spark Relationship MOT is free. We did that. Can't always be talking house stuff like grocery list and bills. Those are needed conversations for the house to run, but not really for the relationship to feel close. And having more meaningful conversations led to sharing better sex.

Maybe those ideas help you some. But if you have bigger stuff going on and you can access couples counseling? Why not do it? Your marriage is important to you, right? We do car tune ups and AC tune ups and teeth cleanings and all that. Why not a marriage tune up?

And if you want to ask him for an in house date to play Halos and Sins? Ask him then.

Galagirl
 
Hello halosins,
Have you tried FetLife?
Halos and Sins sounds interesting. How does it work?
I hope you and your husband find the passion you seek.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Having new lovers often makes me feel more passion and appreciation for my other lovers whom I have had a long established relationship with.
 
Dear forum members, please be aware that this post is *probably* an advertisement for the game mentioned in the OP.
 
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