Faerum
New member
Background: 25yr male, married(mono) to a 26f.
For those of you who were married when you started talking to your partner about polyamory or anything involving another person/people.
I've brought it up jokingly a few times and really only seriously once. I've gotten mixed responses and I'm confident she would say yes to a threesome/foursome but not polyamory/any emotions involved.
Worried that any further discussions will basically be me trying to convince her to open the relationship or have an encounter, and It feels like that convincing would be manipulation on my part.
I'm having trouble deciding if I should continue the conversation I mean, is polyamory really worth it? I don't want to possibly ruin this amazing relationship that I could see lasting for life just to have more life experiences.
I feel like I'm on the edge of a community looking in and agreeing with the views, but going forward could cause me to lose my wife.
What was the catalyst for your relationship that lead you to opening up with a more serious conversation? When you got mixed responses did you keep pushing it, wait for years, just drop it and forget about it?
Frankly, I'm terrified as hell to bring it up a second time. It's one thing to get a yes to a threesome and a completely different thing to actually do it, or even worse clarify the misunderstanding you were talking more about the concept of polyamory than just threesomes.
For those of you who were married when you started talking to your partner about polyamory or anything involving another person/people.
I've brought it up jokingly a few times and really only seriously once. I've gotten mixed responses and I'm confident she would say yes to a threesome/foursome but not polyamory/any emotions involved.
Worried that any further discussions will basically be me trying to convince her to open the relationship or have an encounter, and It feels like that convincing would be manipulation on my part.
I'm having trouble deciding if I should continue the conversation I mean, is polyamory really worth it? I don't want to possibly ruin this amazing relationship that I could see lasting for life just to have more life experiences.
I feel like I'm on the edge of a community looking in and agreeing with the views, but going forward could cause me to lose my wife.
What was the catalyst for your relationship that lead you to opening up with a more serious conversation? When you got mixed responses did you keep pushing it, wait for years, just drop it and forget about it?
Frankly, I'm terrified as hell to bring it up a second time. It's one thing to get a yes to a threesome and a completely different thing to actually do it, or even worse clarify the misunderstanding you were talking more about the concept of polyamory than just threesomes.