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    He's just not that into me, but since when?

    Actually, yeah, we were drinking a little on our first date, and we were both sober the next time I saw him. I wouldn't really call it a second date; he just invited me over to hang out. We were alone in his house and it felt totally platonic. Alcohol would explain why he was feeling bolder the...
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    Staying Connected to Your Partner Whose Away

    Never underestimate text messaging. Every night after work while my primary and I were living together, we talked about how our days went and shared stories, as most couples do. Now that we're LDR, we just send each other texts whenever something funny, frustrating, or anything worth mentioning...
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    Guidelines & Boundaries vs. Rules: Merged Threads, General Discussion

    Not knowing the particulars, my answer is based on my own anecdotal experience. I think the best course of action would be honest discussion with the offending partner about how and why what happened was a boundary violation. Of course, your partner would have to be willing to listen and let you...
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    He's just not that into me, but since when?

    Hey all. Before I get to my question, have some context. I have an awesome primary who is finishing college in another city, we are best friends, and we're both trying (without much luck, so far) to date other people while we're apart. A couple weeks ago, I went on a date with a guy I met...
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    A chance encounter with my meta revealed that all's not well. What should I do?

    Hey all. First of all, have some context: My main man and I have a long distance, open relationship. He and I have a deep emotional and romantic connection, and I'm not looking for that with anyone else. I moved last fall, and I started seeing someone in my new city shortly after. He is...
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    Issue with Age?

    You are all consenting adults. I don't see a problem. There could be some differences in maturity, and that's no one's fault; it just happens when one partner happens to have more life experience than the other. However, age is no guarantee of maturity, wisdom, experience, etc. When it is...
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    He accidentally called me by his other girlfriend's name...

    I recently started seeing a new lover. We have a lot in common and we always have a lot of fun together. Like me, he is in a long-distance open relationship. It works out very well that he and I are in similar situations (though he and Bee* are "nothing serious", as he puts it). He's an awesome...
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    He wants to introduce me to his girlfriend! Help!

    Sorry it took so long to post the outcome of this. It went well. My meta and I got along pretty well. However, I haven't seen her since then, and he tells me she is having a lot of trouble with jealousy lately :/ So I guess meeting her helped me, but it didn't do much for her.
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    Input from non-primary partners sought: How to treat non-primaries well?

    I've got one. PLEASE make sure that you and your primary are on good terms before you start seeing someone else. Parameters and rules should be well established and understood BEFORE taking on a secondary lover. DO NOT wait for a secondary to come along before hammering out what you and your...
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    Polyamory and Ethnicity

    My observations are only anecdotal, but the overwhelming majority of people I know in the poly community are white. The only exception I can think of is my secondary, who is Native American. But yeah. My primary, tertiary, all of my metas, all of my poly friends and their partners, and I are...
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    More than 1 primary?

    When I first started seeing my primary, he was (and still is) pretty seriously involved with someone else. I started out as a secondary, but our relationship blossomed and now my metamour and I are co-primaries, and we get along very well. It can happen. And remember: clear communication is...
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    He wants to introduce me to his girlfriend! Help!

    Thanks, everyone! I am meeting her tonight. She is coming to a weekly meditation group that her boyfriend and I attend sometimes. It'll be a relaxed, no-pressure environment. Depending on how we all feel afterwards, the three of us may go out for drinks or something. It looks like this will work...
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    He wants to introduce me to his girlfriend! Help!

    Hello everyone. I should begin by saying that I recently moved away from the man who has been my best friend and primary lover for the past year. He and I are still seriously involved, we're doing very well, and we seem to have our long-distance relationship figured out. He and I are both very...
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