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  1. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    define "open on all sides.." I asked Joe about this, but he's not okay with me kissing/dating other men besides P. So not open? I'm committed to both of them and that's it? I asked him if he would have been okay with me doing what he did in this situation, and he said no. So.... yeah. I know...
  2. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    hm... i have never needed this forum more!!!1!!! so comments and advice are definitely welcome. some new changes are coming.... maybe in a few months, but probably not sooner than that. Just conversations now. Joe and I are still mulling through some feelings, it seems. He said and did a lot of...
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    Still learning to ride the wave

    last week was rough. for reasons that I won't outline on here, but probably the second or third most stressful week of my life. both Joe and P were super supportive. we all had a serious (but in a good way) talk for the first time in a while. talked about plans for the future and living with...
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    open relationship issues wife keeps not sticking to rules

    perhaps she's not telling you the truth, but honestly if you're out here recording her convos anyway then what's the point. seems you have your answer. she has feelings for and possibly fucked another person around the time yall opened the relationship. perhaps she didn't feel comfy sharing as...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    A positive update… we’re throwing a Halloween party this weekend and initially P had invited his sister without asking me, using the excuse that we had already talked about the party with her months ago so he felt he had to invite her and said it wouldn’t happen again. I thought about this for...
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    Still learning to ride the wave

    P's bday was this weekend (his golden year!) so all 3 of us hung out, ate edibles and listened to music. My roommates sister has been visiting, it's been real family vibes in the house... fall decorations up, the smell of cinnamon brooms and pumpkin spice (clearly fall is my favorite season). It...
  7. mountaingirl

    40yo agender masc seeking solo-poly, bonus points for littles/middles/brats

    OOF SAME. Yesterday I had to sit in on a class for several hours and I came out feeling like a wild animal. Not looking for a partner, but godspeed to you!
  8. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Last week was illuminating. Got back on track with school after taking 1.5 weeks off, started yoga teacher training, and squashed my own personal drama of worrying about the fact that P's sister doesn't fuck w/ me. The week felt like shit starting out, and then ended on a sparkly note.... almost...
  9. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Feeling like: there's not enough time in the day to spend with my loved ones lol My therapist said grad school is like it's own relationship. I said I can be neglectful of her.... and my therapist said "she's for sure a neglectful bitch, so I wouldn't feel too bad" lol. Leaning into feelings...
  10. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    This becomes part poly stuff part mental health diary part dream journal? 🤷‍♀️ Have been setting more clear boundaries with Joe and P. Also journaling thoughts, feelings and dreams a lot. I was having nightmares about my worst insecurities playing out irl earlier this week. In one, I was at a...
  11. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Agreed. Was in a charitable mood when I wrote that lol. Empathizing 2 much I definitely do. I call about good and bad stuff, and it helps me to feel more 'normal'. oof. gets a bit difficult when I'm juggling this much. more difficult when I see/hear judgement of others. I sometimes don't feel...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    hahaha no need to say sorry. I think that's the vibe as well (minus the "hot" part in Joe's case, as I think he is just indifferent about it), and it doesn't seem sustainable for me to do all of this fckn work for them both to pretend they're each in a monogamous relationship with me. I think...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Thanks Magdlyn! This feels validating. My relationship with P still seems like something no one wants to discuss (even P sometimes doesn’t want to talk about logistics stuff, although he’s always down to listen) and because no one except me is practicing polyamory, any time I bring up the...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Hey Kevin :) I agree with all of this, pero I can't make someone so tangential to me respect my relationships or back away, unfortunately. Here's to hoping she gets the message by me not associating with her for a while. And if she doesn't, at least I've solved my issue of not wanting to be...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    yeah. Have told Joe and P this since I lasted posted, they were both understanding. I had a feeling before leaving that something not great was going to happen and I often feel this way before hanging out with her. Like a "if I was in a sticky situation this person would leave me" vibe. Not...
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    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    I do, actually, sometimes just getting on here and blasting the poly relationships corner makes me feel better regardless of feedback. Edited. thanks for suggestion Yes! I am at that point. I have not wanted to miss out on things P, Joe and I were going to do anyway that she was invited to...
  17. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Joe is my husband of 3 years, and P is my partner of nearly 2 years. There are many reasons why I haven't gotten along with P's sister. We're really just incompatible humans; I find her to be selfish and high maintenance and I get the idea that she thinks I'm too emotional. P and Joe refer to...
  18. mountaingirl

    Glossary and Definitions

    in a similar situation as Sarah. I inadvertently confuse people all the time, talking about my "boyfriend" and my "husband" in the same conversation lol. 🤷‍♀️ I think it just depends on what makes you all comfortable. If people are close enough with me to know details of my relationships, then...
  19. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Feeling excited! Me, P, Joe and P's sister are headed to Vegas this weekend to see Bad Bunny. Life is good. School is good. Lots of exciting things around the corner. I start my yoga teacher training next month, which I've been waiting to do for ~ 5 years. My sister's wedding is in a couple...
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    Still learning to ride the wave

    this is really helpful with Joe. he has always wanted to help me with all my problems, but as I get more into my career and started dating P, it's not possible for him to help me with all the issues that don't concern him. as I learn more about each of them I get better with this. We've all...
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