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    serial monogamy and polyamory

    Although I believe serial monogamist exist, I wonder if these creatures aren't poly at heart and are following their conditioning of being taught more than one is wrong.
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    My state's law on polyamory, what's your state's law?

    "I am free no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do. ---Robert A. Heinlein
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    If you want to love me you have to love my spouse?

    Wow! I am pleasantly surprised! My apologies if I offended anyone. It was not my intention.
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    My wife isn't poly, my friend isn't poly...but I love both. Poly?

    Ouch! I hate the idea of it just being a crush. I've known my friend for 7 years now and it just seems every year we've become closer friends. There could be some truth here. Maybe I'm mistaking infatuation for love? I've done that before in my younger years. I'd like to think I'm not making...
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    If you want to love me you have to love my spouse?

    I don't buy into this polyamorous requirement that if you are legally married to someone that your spouse has to also be romantically involved with the other person you are in love with. I'm not saying it isn't possible, I'm just saying that if I find someone I love and wish to spend time with...
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    My wife isn't poly, my friend isn't poly...but I love both. Poly?

    I know in my heart I'm polyamorous because I truly do love my wife. I also love being around and spending time with my best friend but she too is not polyamorous. Would I like to have sex with both? Yes. Either individually or both at the same time but the fact that my wife nor my friend are...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    I've always felt that I was in love with more than just one person from my early teens. It wasn't until I started reading Robert A. Heinlein's later books that I realized there were other people that thought the same way.
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    Sharing with acquaintances

    Without really reading anyone elses reply my response is, it's not anyone's business. If it comes back to you just deal with it head on and tell them it's none of their business. In my situation, the woman I consider my best friend and have never ever even seen nude, is often accused of...
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    Relationship labels: possessiveness or connectivity

    In "my opinion"(possessive, it belongs to me) it should really not matter. How else are you going to refer to a friend, dare I say..."of yours'? No other way than to say "my friend". Sure it's possessive but should in no way connote ownership. It all depends on the inflection also. For...
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    Single, poly and having kids

    In my fantasy world, my wife and I purchase a home with the woman I consider my best friend who wants desperately to have children but can't seem to find the right man. Anyway, I and this other woman have children together and the three of us share the responsibility of raising them. My wife...
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    Is poly right for me?

    Look, I'm new to all this myself but isn't polyamory defined as multiple loves? Myself, I've always been conflicted because I've been in love with more than one person at a time although very rarely was sex even involved. Don't mean this as an insult but perhaps it's the "Swinger" lifestyle...
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    Confusing Start - 1 week

    Brutal but makes sense.
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    Is it right for a poly person to try to convert a monogamous person to polyamory?

    I think the answer is obvious for the friend that thinks everyone should be poly. Some people just aren't. I'd never try and force anyone to accept any life style, only respect it.
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    How did everyone find out they were Poly? My apologies up front. I'm sure this question has been posted several times but felt the need to explain how I arrived here and seek advice on how I deal with all this. So, as the name I chose implies, now I know, as in now I know why I've had these...