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    Religious survey

    I was raised Christian (of the non-denominational, megachurch variety, with a little evangelical thrown in), but I now identify as agnostic.
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    Newbie's Blog: Understanding Being a Mono Secondary

    Sad and confused Things aren't quite so calm and happy today. Two things are kicking around in my head right now. The first is that A and I discussed polyamory for the first time. I was surprised and happy to hear that he had heard of the term--but then I was disheartened to discover that he...
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    Newbie's Blog: Understanding Being a Mono Secondary

    Hello, and welcome to my blog! I’m planning to use this as a space to process all of the new information and emotions I’m discovering now that I’m in a relationship with a poly man. I’m hoping it will have a generally positive tone—but who’s to say? Until a couple of weeks ago, I had spent...
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    Mono secondary--how does this work?

    Thank you for the kind words, and for this suggestion! I actually will do that. :) Thanks for sharing your perspective! It sounds like A does approach things in much the same way, and it’s reassuring to hear that it, in your case, it has resulted in mutually rewarding relationships for...
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    Oops--hello!

    Hello! I skipped a step and jumped straight into posting without introducing myself. How rude! This will repeat some of the things I wrote in my post in the New to Polyamory section, but I still want to do a proper introduction. So… I’m a 30ish, recently divorced, straight, mono woman. I’m in a...
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    Mono secondary--how does this work?

    Thanks so much for the advice! I genuinely appreciate it, and although I’m feeling really nervous about bringing these things up with A, I’m also feeling so much more clarity. So, thanks! With all of my confusion and uncertainty, I hadn’t been able to break it down this simply—thank you. This...
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    Mono secondary--how does this work?

    Good questions! Thanks for raising these points. I do have insecurity issues, but they stem from a lot of things—most recently from being in (and leaving) an unhealthy marriage. My relationship with A has actually done wonders for a lot of those insecurities. So you’re right—pretty much all of...
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    Mono secondary--how does this work?

    Thanks for the advice! He certainly does not treat me as a secondary in the sense that my needs are considered lesser. In fact, he’s constantly telling me that his wife and I are of equal importance to him, that I need to tell him if I need something more or different, and that it’s perfectly...
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    Mono secondary--how does this work?

    Hello. All of this is completely new to me, so please forgive what is bound to be an awkward post. I feel like I have a million questions, but this post may end up being more of a search for empathy. We’ll see… My story feels long and complicated, but the short version is that I am a recently...
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