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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    where did everyone go? Broken Arrow I started this thread but eft my poly/mono relationship some years ago and am now happily married to a mono man. I stopped using the email attached to this forum so I wasn't even aware anyone was still interested. I do believe that I have gained a lot more...
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    Survival guide for dating a mono

    Hi I'm inactive here now but tried to make a Polymono relationship work for six years. We loved each other heaps, still do really but in the end I (the more mono) pulled the plug because it wasn't making either of us as happy as we are now. I actually think poly/mono is a spectrum. I'm happily...
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    Biblical Christian Poly Living

    Devils advocate Ok, this should get the ball rolling. Christianity and poly will never mix well for many reasons, one of which is that it is viewed as a form of idolatry. Men taking multiple wives was seen as ok due to necessity but polyamory is about loving more than one person out of choice...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Wow, that is amazing progress!! Well done you :)
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi Monomom I see there is quite a bit of interest and input into your situation, but I'm interested in how you are going? I empathise with you because I know how hard it must be for you to consider leaving your marriage. I had no children with my partner and it still took me six years to work...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi Monomum You said I've got access to a wonderful new facility for respite care for our kids. I was looking forward to some time alone with him this summer. I think, given your deeply felt response to his suggestion of opening up your relationship, that spending some quality time with your...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Dearest Monomom It sounds like you may be the one who has been the primary carer of your two additional needs children. That kind of commitment can make anyone feel a bit worn around the edges. I know the insecurity that this kind of admission from a partner can bring up and while it is...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hey Monomom :) First of all in my experience of this, which is considerable, 6.5 years, I would not be getting too concerned yet. Easy for me to say? Well actually it is because I have been where you are and I often wished I had not taken my partner's "smitteness" so seriously. Many men have...
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    Finding answers I'm so sorry I missed your message. I don't go into the forum anymore unless I...

    Finding answers I'm so sorry I missed your message. I don't go into the forum anymore unless I get an alert and for some reason I wasn't alerted to your message. How are you going. Happy to chat with you however you would like. Sage
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi Monomom My heart goes out to you. Every case of of polyamory is unique, there is no cut and paste solution. From the little info you have given (which is good, some people write a novel and that makes it harder to focus and comment effectively), it sounds like this could be a form of...
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    Redpepper's journey

    :)"I don't think a person can really know they are poly until the joy they feel of many loves and a big tribe comes crumbling down and they are left with rubble and STILL want to date other people regardless." Yeah well this is Mike, kinda. He's thinks his crumbling relationships have all been...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Finding Answers my heart goes out to you. I know something of your pain because I have been in similar pain and that's why I started this thread. Ironically I have now also become a Christian. My poly partner and I were together for six years and set to get married but that decision seemed to...
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    Redpepper's journey

    Hi Redpepper Best wishes for your season of change :) We're going through a similar thing at the moment. I've come to the conclusion polyamory doesn't work in my life and so Mike (Zen) and I are going our separate ways next year when our lease is up. Mike limited his poly activity for my sake...
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    Biblical Christian Poly Living

    Maybe Magdlyn is living in the Now?
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi gorgeous kitten Quite the opposite in a way. My partner is poly and after years of trying to be really comfortable with it while remaining mono I tried poly myself but it has never worked in the same way for me. I find it difficult to manage the emotions and I also find that most men don't...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi NYCindie Yes well I have thought about doing a second edition And include what I have discovered over the last few Years, because the first book was very much from my Experience as a newbie. Then I think about all the work Involved for what is a very small market and as a result Gave away...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Yes I understand the logic of that and that was my initial intention as well.What I discovered was that it set up a resentment in me because I felt like I was prepared to do a lot of difficult self-work that Mike was not, so I just counsel you to be gentle and nurturing of yourself. There is...
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    The Struggling Mono Thread

    Hi Jurgenk Welcome and I’m glad our musings, insights, tears and struggles have helped. I don’t come on here much anymore because after 6 years in my polymono relationship I can truly say that I am largely at peace with it. Ultimately for me this has come about by exploring polyamory for...
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    Is it Poly and anyone else Mono/Poly?

    Partner is poly, I would rather be mono but have a bf because I don't like doing mono/poly. Or maybe I don't like myself in a mono/poly dynamic. Whatever, at the moment its working better this way. Polys often live mono lives for one reason or another so I don't really have any problem with...
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    Writing fictional V for a story

    Wouldn't it be wonderful if mainstream fiction was ready for poly? If this happens I think it will come via a crossover from the sic/fi fantasy route. I would love to write a love triangle that ended happily in a V relationship. Just read your story premise below Copperhead and find myself...
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