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    Asking for guidance - experiencing love with other than my fiance

    I agree with what Galagirl is saying. It sounds like you did have the talk and he is not interested in pursuing a poly relationship. If you feel very strongly about wanting to be able to love other people fully will begin to weigh hard on you and it will strain your relationship in the long...
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    What to do next

    Thank you for the link. It should be very helpful.
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    What to do next

    My wife has been sitting beside me for each and every post. I talked with her about what I was posting to keep her involved in the discussion. Wife here typing: I did not think that I would need to create an account, but if it would help alleviate confusion I can do so. I'm sorry if my actions...
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    My use of the plural in this case is because both of us (My wife and I) feel we wronged our friend. And together we wish to apologize to her. I understand that my word choice has been very confusing up to this point. I am really trying to approach this correctly but I know I have a lot to...
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    That's our plan as of right now. Thank you Galagirl for the input.
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    I hope so. She is leaving at the end of January but I am not sure what other commitments she has. We plan to try and contact her electronically and hope that she will be willing to meet in person so that we can properly apologize.
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    Thank you for your input. We will be better about our phrasing in the future, to ensure clarity (We are not seeking to make a triad). We don't want to hurt anyone else with our words.
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    What to do next

    Thank you for letting us know that the phrase "Adding a third to our relationship" has a specific meaning in the poly community. We will try to avoid this in the future. Yes it is true that my wife's relationship with Anna most likely will not change but I care about Anna as well. I do not wish...
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    I feel that we have hurt her by not being clear with our intentions. I wanted to let her define the boundaries of the relationship and determine how it would grow and evolve. I know I did not make that clear at all when I talked to her. (we know the time was wrong, but we also didn't know if...
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    Thank you for the kind words.
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    Thank you for the input and and advice. We felt like disgusting monsters for what we did. You...

    Thank you for the input and and advice. We felt like disgusting monsters for what we did. You helped us feel a bit better about the unfortunate situation.
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    What to do next

    Thank you for the advice. My wife and I are still very new to polyamory and not sure how to establish a relationship like this. I wanted Anna to be aware of my feelings and grow into the relationship as she was comfortable, but we really botched it. We had thought about contacting her in about a...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    I realized I was poly after marrying my wife. One night we were just talking and I brought up the topic for no good reason. It just popped into my head and the thought of loving (more in the a romantic sense than the erotic) two people was very appealing. I've always been a loving person and...
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    What to do next

    Dear GreenAcres, Thank you for the feedback. My wife and I both know that we acted rashly and pushed boundaries we should not have. We had wanted to let her set the boundaries of the relationship, because she has so much at stake, however we never even managed to tell her. We know we screwed up...
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    Where are you from ?

    Thank you for the advice. I will check those searches out.
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    What to do next

    So a few days ago my wife and I confessed to someone (Lets call her Anna) that we really liked them and wanted to enter into a polyamorous relationship. I did tell ‘Anna’ that I do love her which I know can scare some people. Some background on Anna is that she lives out of state and will be...
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    *Posteed in wrong section* What to do next posted in wrong forum. Im really sorry. trying to delete this.
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    Where are you from ?

    Hi. My wife and I are from the San Francisco Bay Area and we are looking for a support group to help understand this new aspect to our lives.
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    Hello everyone

    Hello everyone. I recently have realized that I am Polyamorous so please forgive me if I don't use proper terminology. I am still learning and I want to better understand this aspect of who I am. I'm a 28 year old Californian native. I grew up in a very conservative and traditional christian...
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