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^Thanks for your post :) Well, more drama. Work stress and more illness (I can't figure out if it's been one virus after another or a MEGA VIRUS that's been hanging around since October - maybe it's a polyamorous constellation of viruses and they're all out to get me! :D) has meant my absence...

We went once, back in November, and haven't found the time to go since. We should do really...

Blimey has it been this long? I've been so busy at work, moving house and catching various viruses that I've hardly been online. A has met someone and is in a (mono) relationship now. That hurt, but he'd been quiet for a month or two due to work stress and finding somewhere to live that I feel...

Amen, sister. The OPP devalues female and lesbian sexuality and IMO is a bad sign about how comfortable a partner is with poly. What's to say my girlfriend isn't going to be more of a 'risk' than my boyfriend? She might be waaaaay better at oral sex, after all ;) :D

E took days to get back to me, partly due to being busy but also he's freaked out about getting tested. He's been poly for a while and has never been tested, and is worried about it. He annoyed me a bit by being so quiet, but we're all made up now. I feel pretty good :)

Well he's still seeing her, and apparently she's ok with it being poly. He said to me today he's not sure if it'll work out and he imagines they'll just end up as friends, but he's seeing how it goes. Personally I think she's trouble, but we'll see.

I saw E today for a day of art spotting. I was pretty nervous about going but had a lovely day. I felt very comfortable around him and the few times he touched me (very respectfully) - putting his arm in mine, stroking his hand along my shoulders, gently kissing me goodbye - felt lovely. I've...

Well, all sorts of developments since my last post. A female friend of ours (S) is currently discussing being with Mr FA. She's taking it slowly and has obviously got strong values about fairness and honesty, which is great. I really hope they work it out as she's a great friend and I'd be happy...

It's been a difficult few days. On Saturday A was as delightful as ever. I found saying goodbye was hard, and seeing him reminded me of why I love his company. As a result of having such a lovely time I'm really struggling to reconcile my feelings. On the one hand I have the desire to spend...

SE England/London Polys! There's a Poly London meet-up (or PoLo as I like to call it :D) on the first Tuesday of every month. More info here: http://www.meetup.com/polylondon/ My partner and I have been to one already and everyone's really lovely and friendly.

Right, more developments, so I guess I should post! The email play between E & I just seems to be getting hotter :D I think once we are physical it could be dynamite ;) A has been off the grid for a while, I think he's struggling with a few things in his life. I'm seeing him today to go...

Nope, not at all :)

Well I'm open to vegan-friendly carnivores too, as long as they're happy to eat vegan around me. And like you say, I might be a good influence on them :) Since playing with E online (we met on Tuesday at a Poly meet) I've realised that while I like him, and would probably like to play IRL with...

Not lost, just avoiding the thread as I was feeling judged and picked on. Thanks for this Derby :)

The reason is that we can see how this feels (being with other people) simultaneously. We have negotiated this between us and are happy with it. You know, like consenting grown-ups ;) We're both actively looking, so one of us giving up isn't an issue, and because we both negotiated and agreed...

Still coming on Tues, looking forward to it :) I think gender/sexuality (and, like you, I kinda see poly as a sexuality) is fluid, we're all on the spectrum and can move around on it.

Hey bimbly :) *waves* I don't know if I've always been poly - certainly when I was younger I didn't see why loving lots of different people at once would be a problem. As I started dating (and met my partner) monogamy seemed the only way - social conditioning told me that this was the only way...

I'm more proactive than my partner, so this idea appeals. Thanks for the info :) @Ceoli, Geminigirl, RP: It's not that we plan to live our poly lives doing everything exactly at the same time e.g. "I did X, Y and Z with E on Saturday so you need to do X, Y and Z with your partner on Sunday". We...

OK OK, I don't need a rant about poly ethics :rolleyes: I was more referring to a slightly more sophisticated modus operandi than "hi, we're both poly, do you want to fuck my boyfriend"? I'm a Brit, I just can't be that blunt!:D

After choosing to actively pursue the poly lifestyle in July 2010, all sorts of things have happened already and we haven't even started being physical with people yet! (Warning, this could be a long one!) We've been through a lot as a couple in the last 8 years: debt, illness, stress...