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A few comments... 1. I still consider each of my original points as individually valid: what I reconsidered was instead whether I could legitimately add them all together and conclude that spending the rest of my life alone was truly unavoidable. So, not whether they lower your odds, but rather...

A plague on both their houses: these two authors are simply in yet another pissing contest over who can use the world "privileged" the most. It's honestly disturbing how intellectually lazy the currently-fashionable insults "privilege" or "privileged" have allowed authors to become.

I'd also like to thank everyone who participated in this thread for their patience with it. My last two poly arrangements didn't go well, and that may also have been clouding my judgment.

Well, it's never easy to admit one is wrong, but although I still stand by the concerns I raised in my original post, and still suspect some of them could be better fodder for real-life poly discussion groups than the typical communication/scheduling/jealousy mix tape, I no longer think it's...

I'm starting to feel like I'm taking up too much of everyone's time; after all this is a polyamory discussion forum, and there are pending questions from people who have a variable number of partners rather than being permanently flatlined at zero :) A few last thoughts though: 1. Bringing up...

You need to either bring it up early on, or else EFFECTIVELY lie about it, precisely BECAUSE most people find polyamory so repugnant: failing to disclose and then getting found out would only mean a relationship-ending barrage of "WHAT ELSE ARE YOU HIDING FROM ME?!? I CAN NEVER TRUST YOU AGAIN...

I don't mean to be difficult, but I'm just not following this. Poly folks are already only a very small percentage of the population, at any age. But that percentage gets smaller as they age, since it's reasonable to assume more people transfer from polyamory to monogamy than from monogamy to...

It's true that I might have ended up miserable in a monogamous relationship, but now that it's too late for more relationships of any kind, I wish I'd at least tried. I suppose I could fill up my remaining decades with reading books, watching television, organizing my photographs, taking care...

I'm well beyond my 30's :)

I didn't mention love because in context (i.e. in a polyamory discussion forum) the term "partner" reasonably implies it. I guess how this works is that if you're shut out from the world of LOVE relationships on the basis of something shallow, then you're somehow shallow yourself for correctly...

Introduction I practiced polyamory from 1995 through 2010, in a progressive west coast city with a large and vibrant poly community. I've attended countless poly workshops and poly-friendly gatherings, and read pretty much all of the major poly books. But despite all this I ultimately ended up...