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Congratulations….proud moment for all those involved 😆😉. You can be proud you made the right call. Hubby can be proud he pushed / worked through it. AND Bf didn’t accidentally say or do anything to upset things. I’d say a pretty big hurdle has been removed.

You misunderstood …I suggest a bi or gay poly man wouldnt be going after attached poly women in any kind of significant number. Were these closeted men married to women and poly ? Ok you can’t tell us how many guys you’ve talked with that are posing as straight but could you guess as a...

I appreciate you sharing all of that. To me it sounds like you and Adam have constructed your poly marriage from the ground up. Your social circles and dating circles have grown or interconnected from the beginning. You’re motivation and philosophy were established pretty much right out of...

i completely get not wanting to have sex with someone not wanting to have sex with you but if you’re required to have “ just sex “ to get off …..what the fuck is the difference. Paying a sex work or having you wife perform her duties isn’t it the same on a theoretical emotional level ...

I think 2 or 3 yrs less than her. So awhile. yes …just a few. 😉😝 Why was it wrong to ask what her and her husbands motivations or mindset would have been upon starting out ? I thought the topic was sort of confined in the space of why poly partnered women aren’t just jumping at the...

Sarah introduced you to Sam ?? Like played matchmaker? You might want to dig into everyone motivations on that. was Sam lonely and feeling left out and Sarah took it upon herself to help him out? I don’t think you were deprioritized. I think you were never properly prioritized...

yes but the title of the thread was asking the question regarding poly partnered women. YES …OPPORTUNITY doesn’t mean success. You’re going to have to kiss or blow a lot of frog to find your keeper. i didn’t assume that. I just didn’t think it would have a huge statistical impact It would...

I’ve also some poly partnered women dont like dating men or women who are novice. Then don’t want to be teachers/ mentor/ therapists to rookies. So that chops of a chunk of availability pool. It’s just a stone cold fact that a women raising her hand as poly will have unlimited opportunity...

In my experience they are looking for escape. AND maybe something substantially different from their nesting relationship.

I think you’re overlaying thoughts and feeling to a situation that happened yrs ago and trying to make a fair comparison or moral comparison That where the guilt or remorse is coming from. THE difference IMO is the context and structural facts are different. The players are different …you‘re...

Not sure how you connect a negative thought or feeling to defining a person who has that thought or feeling. If he invest lots of time money and energy into poly and dating and has little to no success and still feels left behind wouldnt that be valid and not necessarily defining as a person...

how do you know these negative feelings/ negative emotions are temporary? You think that the distraction of another partner would make everything OK/ good / great ? why not work on you not feeling guilty ?? Toughen up. Don’t let his bullshit in. Sometime you have to let the babies...

Wasn’t meant as advice just an observation.. but delete the whole thing if you like.

clever and funny kid 😝😝😝👍 I don’t know him but I think I’d really like him 😁 I think I made the mistake of ordering online and not physically testing the different brands. i got Bose. And recently one of my furry friends damaged bordering on destroyed them. Did you do any testing ...

What exactly is a dogquarium did you buy it or have it built?? how expansive was it ? Noise cancelling headphones or earbuds …what brand ? Any reports on Dude since his dramatic exit ?

The reason for my questions was how long did your husband get use to / get in the habit of being in a mono relationship. I made the comment he knew what he was getting into …which is true however the demotion and displacement / loss is still going to be an adjustment. You say after the...

How long were you and your husband effectively mono ? Did it start before or after you got married ?

it was worse . The claim and frequent pronouncement from the gentleman was he and his wife didnt operate with with a hierarchy. But over and over again he proved / they proved that not to be the case. in the above case mentioned the poly couple had no children the single partner had...

i don’t think history equals hierarchy. Maybe in some theoretical way but I’m having a hard time thinking how that it would show itself in any kind of practical way that demonstrates hierarchy. yes but length of time duration of a relationship doesn‘t automatically translate into status...

ok but triads rarely work long term. 😆 yes …claim very very easy. And I’m sure many actually thing they are however the paper work makes it really difficult to actually achieve. Again they can claim all they want but Barbie’s veto rules and screen process seem to tell a different story...