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    I Wish my hubby was more like new boyfriend

    Hi Debbyandray. I was passing on a bit of information from Dan Savage so you wouldn't have to leave this site. One stop shopping so to speak. Warm regards, Rick.
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    I Wish my hubby was more like new boyfriend

    Suggest Hubby be GGG. Hi DebbyandRay, everyone. Dan Savage is a sex columnist at a Seattle Newspaper and he has a bit of advice that I think might be of use to you and your husband. He says that we should try to be Good, Giving and Game (GGG) lovers. Good means that we should strive to be...
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    I Wish my hubby was more like new boyfriend

    Your husband is willing to let you explore your needs with other people. This is not a small thing, it is quite rare in our society. My wife has a much lower sex drive than I, thus I usually suggest we jump into bed. I am thinking, "it has been 2 days!!! Aughh!!!" She thinks, "It has been...
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    Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites

    Sex at Dawn discusses this a little bit. (Look up the 'plasticity' of sexual desire.) However, there is not that much in here. If someone knows of more detailed discussion I would be interested in knowing about it. Warm regards, Rick.
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    Hi Sage, I'm reading your book now and I have some comments. -- A couple times you say...

    Hi Sage, I'm reading your book now and I have some comments. -- A couple times you say, "I'm mono." I know what you mean but your readers likely won't understand this slang. I would suggest you show this work to some people who know NOTHING about polyamory and ask them to list any slang...
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    Hi Sage, I've been very busy and it has been a few months since I've logged onto the...

    Hi Sage, I've been very busy and it has been a few months since I've logged onto the polyforums. I just saw your link this minute. I hope to be able to read your book and comment soon. Warm regards, Rick.
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    Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites

    BOOK REVIEW: "Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality", by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha', HarperCollins Publishers, (c) 2010, ISBN 978-0-06-170780-3, 400 pages, $25.99. This is a very powerful book that I believe will transform how our society thinks about polyamory. I...
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    Understanding Poly and Cheating

    Thanks RedPepper! This sort of index is very useful, finding useful organized information on a giant forum is very hard. I salute you and hope that you up date it from time to time. Very warm regards, Rick.
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    can someone tell me their stories...

    Best of luck. By the way, LDR = Long Distance Relationship. Took me a bit before I figured this out. My wife and I had a 3 year LDR, driving up and down I-5 and having to cross the border. We wanted to see what it would be like to live together for a while before we got married. So even...
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    Am I getting better or worse?

    Hi DazednConfused. I am enough of a romantic to think that it is better if there is real love rather than just lust (not that there is anything wrong with just lust). My definition of love is Robert A. Heinlein's: "Love is the state where your own happiness is dependent on your loved one's...
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    Longest Newbie Story. Ever.

    Hi Everyone, myelsewhere. Lately I seem to be running into a lot of variations of this situation: Someone makes a mistake and the other person claims betrayal / cheating. As far as I'm concerned, you have to do something vile to betray someone. As in breaking a promise, ignoring a vow...
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    Scared and confused.

    Hi Erato, No problem, I misunderstood what you were saying. Warm regards, Rick.
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    Am I getting better or worse?

    Hi DazednCopnfused, So sorry to hear about your mom. I appreciate that you are trying to take the high road, give them time to make their own mistakes and learn from them, etc. but I think that things have reached a crisis. You need to save your strength for yourself and your mom. If...
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    Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites

    BOOK REVIEW: "Polyamory In the 21st Century: Love and intimacy with Multiple Partners", by Dr. Deborah M. Anapol, Published by Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc, (c) 2010?, ISBN 976-1-4422-0021-0, 269 pages. The library ordered this book for us, so I felt I should read it. I was not...
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    Scared and confused.

    Hi Cyrus, I take issue with the poster above who says, you are already cheating on your wife since you think she wants you to have feelings only for her. People can't control their emotions. You can't say, 'I will not be jealous' or 'I will not develop romantic feelings for this woman' or 'I...
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    Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites

    BOOK REVIEW: "Polyamory The New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships", by Dr. Deborah M. Anapol, Published by IntiNet Resource Center, (c) 1997, ISBN 1-880789-08-6, 180 pages, $16.00. There were two earlier versions of this book, I believe that this one is the most...
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    Confident Persona After Being Insecure; is it Possible?

    Hi Vexxed, It is totally possible to become a secure person after being insecure. I did it. But it is very hard to change your personalty and you will back slide from time to time. There is some truth in 'fake it until you make it'. If you present yourself as a friendly outgoing person...
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    Wow. She really hates me.

    Hi Ediblestrange, I figure about 10 to 15% of the people I meet are assholes. I don't spend time with them; I don't allow them to get power over me; I avoid them. I can see no reason why you would want to spend time with her, and if somehow a poly family formed with her in it, she would just...
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    New to Polyamory, Uncertain, and Jealous.

    Hi SimpleSimian, In poly, people are free to negotiate what ever rules and guidelines that they want. It is pretty typical for the person who is least easy with poly to want to make a bunch of restrictions and rules to protect themselves. This is natural and perfectly understandable...
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    Polyamory Books, Magazines, Websites

    BOOK REVIEW: "The Five Love Languages: How to Express heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.", by Gary Chapman, Northfield Publishing, (c) 1992 & 1995, ISBN 1-881273-15-6, 203 pages. The edition I read includes a study guide by James S. Bell Jr. I did not have high expectations for this book. The...
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