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    Word Association Game!

    i'm bringing this back. FOOD
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    Witnessing toxicity in Partner's relationship with Nesting partner

    Update is that D and M talked about their most recent fight, or rather M talked and D didn't do any talking. I told him that worries me but I understand its his relationship to navigate. I also encouraged professional counseling and told him that I support him no matter what (if it means closing...
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    Witnessing toxicity in Partner's relationship with Nesting partner

    This article was amazing to thank you. I also agree with maybe being limited support not all of it
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    Witnessing toxicity in Partner's relationship with Nesting partner

    Hi everyone, I am in a situation where my partner, D lives with and is married to M. M dates T and has gotten serious with him over the past year. (During that same time frame, D has gotten closer to me) Until recently I didn't realize how iffy M and D's relationship has become.... M and D...
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    Hoping to speak with anyone in a DDLG relationship

    This is useful to be mindful of. I think I tend to go into little space when I am hurting, but also when I am just having fun. Generally, when I hurt and I don't understand why, I kind of regress but usually within an hour or so, I am able to be back to my normal self and articulate my feelings...
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    Hoping to speak with anyone in a DDLG relationship

    I don't but multiple people on here mentioned it, so I will look into joining! thank you!
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    Thank you all so much for the well thought out responses. Sorry its taken me a little while to get back on here. I am def going to be reading through them again and ponder all sides. I really appreciate all of the support I get on here. Thank you!
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    I think that's true. Understanding and solidifying where my limitations are instead of having my boundaries transgressed and then hurting in the name of submission or lack of self-confidence or whatever I may be is what I really need to be careful of.
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    Wow thank you, I have never been on fetlife so I really appreciate the resources. Also, "just because we are poly doesn't mean that we're open for business, all day, all the time and that we need to somehow be cool that our partners will take up with anyone else they are interested in". THIS...
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    Thanks so much. I am working to learn and remember that my emotions do not dictate my worth, importance, or what I deserve and that they are just emotions there to teach me things and give me insight into my wants, needs, fears etc. It's quite a process though that doesn't happen overnight. I...
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    100% true. I have a lot of reframing, rewiring and self love to build back up again
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    Absolutely, I am seeing a therapist and my partner has been pretty damn understanding about certain triggers. I think I do need probably more help than my therapist can give though, english isnt her first language so sometimes theres a slight communication issue and I feel I do not get as much...
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    Edit sig?

    Hi, I got it. thank you please feel free to delete.
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    Hoping to speak with anyone in a DDLG relationship

    Hi There, I just posted some background on where I am at and why I have returned to the forums here, I have had experience with both monogomous and polyamorous relationships but am in a newish to a DDLG+poly relationship : But I was hoping to get some feedback from members here as I dive...
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    Edit sig?

    Hi, it's been a while and my signature is broken. I see the signature in the edit/modify profile section, but there is no link or button to allow me to edit or delete it. Am I missing something? Thanks!:)
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    Back into poly again after a 5 year mono

    Back at Poly, this time as a "Little" and not sure if its for the best Hi Friends, I used to use this resource quite often when I was in a few different poly relationships from age 19-22. I am now 28 and spent the past 4ish years in a monogamous relationship. It was pretty damn toxic, I was...
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    Help! I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend but I am not poly

    It is all so confusing. she doesnt expect me to dump him, but I know she would ideally be monogomous with me. she doesnt understand why if I see P so infrequently why I want to be with him. (N lives 20 minutes from me and P lives 2 hours away). My relationship with N is pretty much like a monog...
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    Help! I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend but I am not poly

    River, I dont think I was really ever poly. While the freedom has been lovely. I fell in love with a man (P) who told me about polyamory and told me thats who he was. I was mono. P encouraged me to start dating which I did and then I fell in love with N. like the above poster said. I think its...
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