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  1. Inaniel

    Online dating: how to make sure they're okay with poly

    Weeding out people on Tinder is the modern struggle… I see a lot of different approaches between the extremes of polarizing transparency and utter ambiguity. The later waiting for some sort of exchange prior to letting the cat out of the bag, be it first messages, first dates, body fluids...
  2. Inaniel

    Mono to poly to mono

    In your opinion; where does one draw the line when desire is at odds with obligation?
  3. Inaniel

    Mono to poly to mono

    Kudos for your dedication to your family. If at some point it is not fine, I think you will know. And you will know what you must do.
  4. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    My staff has flooded me with work to review this week. My job is like a tsunami; I am either standing in the calm or drowning in the tidal wave… I feel scatter-brained… I am just going to see where my fingers take me today. Bird lost the mailbox key... It normally would not matter but the...
  5. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    I feel so different this week…. Is it normal to feel guilty about bad things you did a decade ago? This is an exciting week! Coming down from a refreshing holiday weekend I just realized I have a 3-day work week. Saturday night I found myself in the company of all my favorite people, my wife...
  6. Inaniel

    Sexual Health in Polycules

    Magdlyn, when I said abstinence I only meant intercourse. My wife and I have toys and oral sex is on the table as well. Although, working from home with my girlfriend all day for almost a year now I tend to be sexed out by the time my wife comes home. So it is hard to find that balance...
  7. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    I enjoy typing on this keyboard, I should hope so because I designed it specifically for myself. During the infancy of mass personal computing emphasis was placed on the design and function of keyboards, ideal tactile key feel was thought to be essential to the success of a platform. The...
  8. Inaniel

    Sexual Health in Polycules

    I’m a hinge in a poly V with two females who are mostly monogamous. I personally do not like barriers. It is hard for me to choose barrier sex when I can have something better. It would be like going out to a disappointing restaurant... Instead let’s stay home and make something amazing…...
  9. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    Perhaps consciousness of one’s illness is the biggest hump in recovery… I saw my therapist today Angel, he has a suspicion that I was traumatized as a child… My father is critical of therapists, so much so that I have kept my pursuit private. He is of the opinion that therapists only serve to...
  10. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    Dove triggered something inside of me. She initiated my program. It begins as sort of an innocence in love, followed by not meeting her expectations, and ending in animosity and conflict. This felt familiar to me… Sex, for Dove was confused with an internal conflict of guilt and shame. She had...
  11. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    Jigi and I were struggling while I was in undergrad. My perception of her changed, I started to see her as a stoned slug that never wanted to leave the couch. My attraction for her waned. And she became romantically attached to a female friend, Rainy. I liked Rainy, I thought she was good for...
  12. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    By the time I was 17 I was rebelling hard against my family, I felt like I never met the expectations of my mother and loathed her trying to control every aspect of my life with force. My father was passive, to a fault, we got along but he never told me he loved me, not once. I think, in...
  13. Inaniel

    Buy the ticket, take the ride.

    I feel melancholic today; or is it nostalgic? The two are intertwined in my mind. I often think about how I got where I am today. And how my life would look if I made slightly better decisions, or slightly worse decisions, if I were a little luckier, or a little less… “Whether you think you...
  14. Inaniel

    What you listening to Now :

    I keep coming back to this one lately...
  15. Inaniel

    Privacy in a relationship

    Sometimes people are just excited about the new and shiny thing in there life. It does not automatically make the relationship “crap”. And if someone is too consumed with the new “thing” in there life, whether it’s a new car, video game, boyfriend, whatever. You can say “hey, I find your...
  16. Inaniel

    Rebuilding: Has taking a break from outside relationships worked for you?

    It is telling that you are responding to the comment I directed at Mesa. Perhaps you got your accounts mixed up. 🤭
  17. Inaniel

    Poly dating: likes/dislikes, recommendations, and experiences...

    I do not have a lot of experience "poly dating" but my most significant relationships have come from friendships, and I hate to say it - co-workers... That's probably why I ended up in a V relationship with two women who consider themselves mostly mono. I also don't actively date or pursue...
  18. Inaniel

    Rebuilding: Has taking a break from outside relationships worked for you?

    That is an inflammatory and unfounded allegation on Marcus. I am not writing in support of him or his word choices in this thread. But id like to point out the irony of the fact that name-calling is something that Marcus didn't reduce himself to in this thread... I think the suggestion that...
  19. Inaniel

    Am I a Cuckold?

    Pardon my ignorance, but what exactly is a cuckold? Wikipedia defines it as the "husband of an adulterous wife". That definition wouldn't fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy.
  20. Inaniel

    Throuple Advice for Newbies

    I think the harsh responses are a result your original post coming off as somewhat predatory. 1. J either cheated or almost cheated on S with you but decided pump the breaks. 2. Now your trying to have sex with J via S because it "feels" more legitimate and transparent. 3. Now that you have...
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