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I was also recently poly-bombed by my wife. I found this website on my own. As someone in a similar position to you, I can honestly say it is a really positive, supportive community. I think that overall others will offer helpful advice, suggestions, and perspectives. Some things will not be...

Hi Emmjay, Great idea for a discussion topic. I was on the other side, so to speak. I’ve recently shared in a couple other threads that I was “poly-bombed” a couple months ago when my wife first proposed opening our marriage. By the way, she was over a month pregnant with our third child at...

Greetings Emmjay, Every person is an individual and each will react differently. I’m happy to share my views and experience. Hopefully it can help others. Stubble is actually a man (39M) and also a father, like myself. I think his children are older as he’s been married a lot longer. I have...

My wife recently proposed opening our marriage. It can be really difficult to hear this from your spouse or partner and it is a really hard thing to talk about. We started going back to counseling when it came up. Before finding this group, the only other person I said anything to about it was...

I was recently shocked by my wife of 7 year’s poly-bomb, asking to open our marriage. This reminds me of one of the first questions from my therapist: “Does she want relationships with men or women or both? would that make a difference to you?” My response: She wants relationships with men. It...

Again, thank you all for the input, thoughts, advice, and perspectives. It was difficult to hear when my wife first proposed opening our marriage. Almost like a sting or a shock. A physical pain. Did anyone else feel this way when your partner first brought it up? I’m sure others felt joy...

We’ve only discussed the most basic of things above. She does want both physical and emotional connections. We both dated a good amount and had lots of different relationships before we got married. I’ve learned that she often dated more than one partner at a time, where I was either just dating...

We have barely discussed the parameters as I am not sure I am okay with it in general. DADT, no more than one night a week, home by morning, nobody we know, keep it discreet. She wants the freedoms to meet others and see where it goes. I’d be able to do the same. Again, it’s really strange to...

She’s pregnant now, just started the second trimester, about 15 weeks. This means it’s pretty much a year until she could even begin seeing others. There is no urgency for an answer now. She said she’d been thinking about it for several months before she became pregnant. (Note: we were intimate...

Thanks for the welcome and all the links Kevin. Fortunately, I have some time to really look into this and consider how it may work out depending on what we decide. @GalaGirl —She is asking to change the foundational agreement of our marriage, the original deal. She has said that if we don’t...

Thanks for taking your time with the honest feedback GalaGirl. I do really appreciate it. Your response brings up a lot of important issues to consider. Again, I respect everyone’s decision to choose to live the way that works best for them. The majority of new posters here are excited about the...

Thanks for the reply Evie. My wife has expressed that she doesn’t want to divorce. Thanks for the suggestions, but I am still really hesitant about opening our relationship. Which reminds me… There is one pretty big detail that I forgot to mention in the first post. She just finished the first...

Greetings all, I am 42M, married to 39F for almost 7 years. We have 2 beautiful young children. I have lived and worked in different counties for most of my adult life, over 15 years. A couple months ago, my wife brought up the idea of having an open marriage. I’ve read many articles online...