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This post deserves a full update, but at the moment, I'll just use GalaGirl's toggles. This was her assessment based off my first post: Married. Yes Communicating open and honestly? no Lovers. no Dating partners. no Open? no. Free of cheating? no Friends. No. (Cheating is not friendly or...

Once again thank you to everyone's words. You all seem genuinely supportive even though some of you are harsher/more realistic than others. I am feeling quite good this morning. I had a very fulfilling therapy session this morning, and its left me feeling more positive. Last night, the...

@GalaGirl I may start up a blog. I'll see how I feel after tomorrows therapy. Also, if I confront her, the time for blogging may be over. Also, I don't want to write it all down and have her look like some sort of villain, which she is not. @CTF This friend does not know I know. I suspect...

@GalaGirl I will mention my thoughts to the therapist tomorrow. It was in my plan. I was not familiar with that timeline, but yes, I am clearly stuck at Ground Zero. I need to move on, and have been wallowing. I am not a fan of those timelines. 18 months is a lonnng time. Forum people are...

He was one of my best friends. His wife would be my wife's best friends. The four of us hang out frequently. Often overnight as we live about 2 hours apart and most of our plans include alcohol. We have not hung out or even spoken since my discovery. Storytime: The four of us are very...

@CTF You are describing a lot of what I am going through with lack of appetite and sleep and weight loss. I feel sanity is on the list. But I'm not going to let it go that far. There will be a confrontation, and I do not expect to I will ask her to stop. I just want her to want me as well...

Thank you again for your comments. As for using anger. I have some, but I'm afraid it will only makes things worse. I mean, there's a great fantasy of breaking out in anger and then she realizes how passionate I am for her, and she sparks and we fuck and live happily ever after. however, I...

I let her feel undesired for years. Sex became a struggle. I was certain my dead bedroom situation stemmed from the fact that I had a low libido partner. I was wrong.

I do know that she's been safe. And that she was cleanly tested by our family Dr.

@GalaGirl I had set a firm date for Friday. I abandoned all hope for being intimate first because I was a wreck. The medication helps some, but I'm still a rollercoaster of good days and really bad days. But she made some pretty nice plans for us Friday, and I don't want to ruin that. Then...

I guess I am torn on whether I should postpone the cheating talk until we have a chance to be intimate. To see if she can find anything desirable in me. Or bring it up first, which I fear will eliminate any chance of that. I don't want to separate from her. I don't want a life without her...

The wife and I have spoken a bit. Still not about her affairs, but we have more open communication. We have bonded more, though not been intimate. Its hard, because I know that despite this struggle, she still has plans for an affair meet up Thursday night. My plan was to talk to her...

Thank you for your comments and honesty, even though some of it hurts. I'm in a bad place, and very sad. I opened communication with my wife on the weekend and for two nights we talked about our lack of intimacy and what we could work on to change that. Unfortunately, those same nights she...

Thank you. I've posted in relationships and I'm poking around a bit now. My situation, while not uncommon, doesn't seem that favourable.

I posted this in the introductions, but was advised I might get more comments in this forum. I'm a male in my late 30s. My wife and I have been together since out mid teens. We have been married for 11 years this October. After the birth of our second child our sex life became rather stagnant...

Hi, I'm mostly here for information. I'm struggling quite a bit and it is difficult to find people to talk about it with. I may post this elsewhere later, as I realize this is the introduction thread and it may get over looked here. But here's what I'm in. I'm in my late 30s. My wife...