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It seems we have circled back to the same conversation from almost four years ago. 😁 Risk / reward. Does the long term risk outweigh the benefit…..and potentially for x2 other partners who are not rewarded from this? Post in thread 'Poly and Potential Positive Partners'...

Not always That's how it usually is, but not always. I'm a testament to that. Illness and disability changes things. My poly ex-boyfriend of almost 5 years ultimately ended our relationship due to the struggles of his also poly partner who after MANY years of BOTH being actively open and...

Sardonic humor has a time and place. This isn't it. Read this thread again. She wasn't talking about potentially getting HPV from a stairway handle or other inane object but contracting HSV2 (HERPES) by having sex with a diagnosed partner. Don't be so daft and thick , of course there is RISK...

Livestrong. Reputable. Renowned. http://www.livestrong.com/article/68568-longterm-effects-herpes-simplex/ Then look at the long term effects of Antivirals like Valtrex; kidney and liver damage and the worst of which is the building of resistance to the virus. This is a growing problem with...

It actually is. You should probably do a little more reading. Sadly sometimes we only see or read the things we want to know, not the stuff we don't. We are all guilty of it sometimes. Sure, until he sees a really bad outbreak and realizes you caught it from another partner. Then why ask...

I struggle to understand why you'd even contemplate that risk with a new partner when you have two loving , healthy partners already. You may feel the need to add to your life but do they really deserve to have to consider this risk to them as well? Sex is one thing. Long term affects are...

If we're correcting grammar.... I think you made a little (perhaps Freudian?) slip as well, Mags. :p. PIV or POV? I don't know that DH wants his PIV discussed here or understood..... but his POV touches some very valid points! Not hating, just being a little facetious and playful...

From a woman who's been where you are, I felt compelled to write. I , too, was in your shoes. I painfully exited a very dysfunctional marriage and craved a little lightness , fun, laughter and PASSION. Tired of dating every loser out there when I met my poly Love. I didn't expect us to fall...

The other side of poly we don't speak of. RP. I'm sorry for your losses. Reading this as quoted above really hit home for me. I've followed your story almost from the beginning and to be honest, it was encouraging for me in the beginning when I decided to delve into such a relationship of...

RP. I feel your pain. Haunt is the perfect definition of the residual effects of the loss of such a relationship - what did I miss, how much was true, was I delusional , how could he do this to me? The coulda, woulda, shoulda. I feel with Mono, you had found a great love and losing that is...

Time Like others who read both blogs, my heart hurts and my mind aches as I read this. Let me share my experience. I was a secondary for 5 years. In that time, I can't tell you how many times similar arguments or emotional conversations happened that were initiated by my fears or my...

Thank you. I'm sorry for your tears. I've been in tears every day since this disintegrated.

This thread isn't a blog. Note the question in the title, posted in Poly Relationships Corner. Literal much? Read it again. What I said was "the next time a guy says his wife was too fat to make love to and told her as such as he fucked his skinny new girlfriend and denied his wife , who...

Is that right? Considering that several people have now accused the OP of being abusive towards her husband? Considering that the OP herself has admitted to it? When someone posts on a public forum looking for feedback , is it the expectation that we all tape our mouths shut and refrain from...

Amen to everything you just said. :)

What I feel sad about reading this whole thing is that when I go back and read all the original postings, it was you that insisted he be open to opening up and he reluctantly did. As a former Secondary who was veto'd in the most horrifically heartbreaking way , this makes me sad for all 3 of...

My point wasn't even the defined abusive nature of this OP, that's obvious, but rather reading this that it hasn't come up that if the roles were reversed and Debbie was a MAN saying such stuff about a woman, the outrage would be far worse. I'm not arguing semantics with anyone.. I'm pointing...

I wasn't referring to you, Kevin, or anyone in particular, I'm just surprised that it hasn't come up by anyone at all yet. Again, many times men on here have been slapped for saying so much less about their female partners, comparing or degrading. That's all. :)

Appreciate the feedback however you missed my point(s). I was referring to a blatant gender double standard. Consider it this way. Excel Spreadsheet Find - Replace function. Find Ray - Replace with Debbie Find Debbie - Replace with Ray Find Small Cock - Replace with small breasts or ugly...

I've been lurking reading this and your Blog and I wouldn't comment on your blog but I will on this thread only because it's making me very uncomfortable reading it. To the members of the forum, your opinion is highly regarded, but I feel that if the characters in this story were reversed and...