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    Poly: Choice or Predisposition?

    I was born and raised to be a monogamous. I tried living my life that way and it contradicting inner feeling I had. It led to causing pain for a mono partner. I mostly didn't realize I was poly because I didn't know it was an option in the first place. Everyone I knew has either been mono or...
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    Other sites like this one?

    I caught a post from the site owner a week ago on reddit saying that he's relaunching it and has learned more about site administration. It seems to be starting up again. Thanks for the other information, I'll look into it. :)
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    Other sites like this one?

    Hello everyone. I really like the discussion available on this site as well as the poly subs on Reddit. I recently learned about a new site going up at as well. So are there other sites out there that you guys frequent that are good for more of the types of discussions that take...
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    Basic Principles of Poly

    The main thing I like about poly is that I'm responsible for making myself happy. Sure, maybe my partners will go out of their way from time to time and surprise me in fun ways... But when they are all busy and I'm by myself, I'm not completely lonely and helpless inside. I used to completely...
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    Need help getting started

    Well, here is the issue. Introducing a monogamous person to polyamory by saying "I've been lying to you for years" is really not easy to do nicely. You want her to see the goodness of polyamory... But a huge part of it is the honesty; and you have shown her that both you and her boyfriend...
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    What you listening to Now :

    Yes, I saw them in Charlotte, NC about 2 months ago. It was a small bar venue, but that just made it a more intimate show. They had these sample pad rapper guys open for them called Mr. Invisible. You can see what their show is like on youtube. They use the same lights/drums and stuff at...
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    I only managed to read the first page of replies to this. But, as a male... I got my first one word message. I figured women would be better at sending messages than men would... Possibly an offensive view, but I do view both genders as equal. But as a male, I feel like my version of messages...
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    Help/Insight/What am I?

    Sounds good, I'll give it a read. Thanks.
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    Help/Insight/What am I?

    Thanks for all the info guys. I found out about The Ethical Slut and I have been reading it. I'm down to reading the final third of the book now. It has definitely changed me a ton. I can now see all the flaws that existed in the relationship I described for everyone involved. I see what...
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    Help/Insight/What am I?

    -Continuation- She has not been speaking to him for 2 months. She knew it was wrong to be behind my back and ended it for me. However, she says she still has feelings for him even though she never stopped loving me. Before I read about NM/poly I couldn’t understand that. Now I do. I feel...
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    My Wife is Poly in Denial

    I don't know if it has already been said but... I get the impression there are things you are not telling us about this relationship that are pretty important. You are quick to point out the number of times she has cheated on you. From reading your post, it sounds like you don't care if she...
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    What you listening to Now :

    EOTO - Drell I answered the original title literally. As I read the title, that is what was playing.
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    Can someone explain Reddit to me?

    Reddit is a website made up of 100% user submitted content. That means pictures, sharing of other websites, forum-style text based discussion, etc. Each section of reddit can be found easily with Google, or using the search function on Each "section" of reddit is known as a...
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    North Carolina...

    Hi, new to this site. New to poly/open/etc. I'm not looking to meet anybody right now, but I'm in the High Point/Greensboro area. 26 year old male.
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    Saying Hello

    Hey everyone, I'm a 26M on the east coast of the United States. After a long term monogamous relationship ended in my SO cheating on me... I ended up researching non-monogamy/polyamory and it helped me cope, even though I don't consider cheating to be NM/poly. I didn't know about it before and...
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    Help/Insight/What am I?

    My post is very long. I'm going to cut it in half and post the second half as a reply because I ran into this limit with the fourm. "The text that you have entered is too long (12588 characters). Please shorten it to 10000 characters long." This is going to be VERY long. Sorry!!! Please...