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I don’t think he’s trying to block me… I think he’s come to realise that over the years he hasn’t shown up to my interests and is now trying to make up for it. It’s not as bad - but it’s still not totally great as it demonstrates he feels my identity stems from a lack in him. If I could get him...

Would you like this moved to the blog section? Sure - thank you xo

I love your optimism. Happy to go with the thought it’s forbidden than I’m just not that appealing 😜

Perhaps this should become my blog… Feeling the hurt of hope lost. Polyamory feels like a hopeless achievement for me. Sometimes it feels like the want will only ever bring me shame. Crush had been unwell, so I’d brought in some vitamin B12 to the manager (a friend) to pass on to him. He’s...

Hi O ☺️ Im a little concerned that: * Jenny is coming to this as the lead, however ** neither she nor James have done any ‘prep’/homework; and ** James doesn’t appear to be part of the conversations about it between you and Jenny. You mentioned everyone possibly being swept away by the idea...

Im so glad it got better. He’s gone out again climbing while I’m stuck in bed. I know it sounds absurd, and likely due to my cabin fever - but I feel a bit like he’s infiltrated my happy place activity while I’m being denied it. I have fears that I’ll never get to be open without leaving this...

Thank you. Me too. The idea of not being able to turn around without my husband being there in the name of ‘wanting to spend more time with me’ (which also equates to completely blocking me off) is depressing.

Agreed. I think he’s genuinely caught the bouldering bug, though. This is my 3rd day stuck in bed with gastro (gross) and he’s gone the last two nights without me. He comes back and describes the routes he did/ got stuck on.

I’ll wait for a genuine opening in the conversation, even if it never comes. I was at peace caring for him the way I do when I ‘knew’ nothing would come of it due to him being gay. I’d rather have him close as a friend than risk losing the connection all together. It is a bit of a heart sore...

i get the sense that he’s trying to be a ‘better husband’ by showing more interest in my activities and/or is feeling a bit vulnerable and wants more of me because the idea of me wanting to see additional people makes him worry about someone ‘taking me away’. I’ve told him I’m untakable… he...

I don’t know! I’m so new to this and get awkward/shy when I like someone this way. Yes, he’s hot - but he’s also kind and funny and sweet… How do you go about raising your interest to someone when you’re poly and already have a nesting spouse? My husband, I think prompted partly by my wanting...

HE’S NOT GAY Came in today as Crush was finishing his shift. He wasn’t feeling well, so he sat with I and one of the other staff to see if he was well enough to drive. He made a comment about feeling this morning like someone was running fingers up his spine. I joked maybe it was his partner...

Fingers crossed for you. About 10 years ago I started getting pretty sick and trying to figure out the cause was incredibly frustrating. All my general bloods were excellent and an ER doctor suggested anti depressants. I knew it wasn’t depression causing it (not because I have a stigma about it...

Im sure it’s already come up somewhere in your blog, but have you tried FODMAP?

Yeah, that’s a lot from different angles to be dealing with at once. If it’s worth anything, I recommend keep reading and insist on having those discussions with hubby.

Hi Moncher Im concerned that things might be a bit too emotionally raw for you at the moment to engage with such a broad range of poly perspectives, when the most important thing right now is to make sure you’re ok. Finding a community/support network is an excellent idea. The only thing with...

Heya, fellow (relatively) newbie here People better positioned to ask the right questions will respond to this post - most of them are just in a time zone that would have them sleeping right now (i.e. you’re not being ignored). There’s no requirement to be ‘actively engaging’ in polyamory to...

Thanks. You don’t mean to say you’ve tried to pursue your wife’s friends, right? I can see how that might produce… mixed results 😅

Thank you, Magdlyn I agree with what you’re saying and am a fan girl of people like yourself on this board. Im looking forward for the reward part to kick in 😅

It’s tricky… I want to feel like I can identify as poly without shame. As Gala put it in another thread, I’m ‘unstealable’ - meaning I am sincerely committed to a husband that I adore. My fear is that the choice will have to be made despite us both loving each other this much.