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We have actually found it to be different for poly. Sex? Yes, my wife can find scores of men that will have sex with her, on a regular basis even, but to actually invest some sort of emotion for a relationship? That's the part she couldn't find. Quite a few poly groups we are in it seemed to be...

Oh don't worry!! I'M not telling her that!! Lol

Yes! I don't want to end it with either of them. I just want it to not be such an issue. Every time I have a date with my gf, my wife is upset. Doesn't matter if she has a date too, doesn't matter of her date is longer or better, she feels upset because I'm with my gf. She has been seeing a...

You are correct, I am trying to keep the peace. It's what I have been doing the entire time. I did say I will talk about it with my wife by the weekend. For right now I'm letting her emotions settle and just not ruffling feathers. Unfortunately it's what I tend to do, and it is a habit I need to...

So last night my wife and I had some very good talks. I explained to her that through out all this I've been stashing my feelings away and just focusing on her needs. I think in doing so, when ever we would have an argument, my feelings would bubble up and explode, and that wasn't good. She...

Absolutely! I have been for some time. She has been seeing a personal therapist since February, and we started seeing a couples therapist, that is skilled in ENM, a couple months ago. I think we had 3 or 4 sessions, and I felt things were actually getting better. Our conflict resolution was...

We were swingers for 6 years before going poly. We knew poly couples and talked a decent amount with them about it. She wanted it before I did. It was her idea and she even started calling my girlfriend by that name before I did. She really thought she wanted this, and I think she did, she just...

I thank you all for your input so far. Every single one of you that has responded has brought up good points. In the beginning, my wife and I had the agreement that if it wasn't working, we would just end poly. We were naive and didn't really know what to expect. After 4 or 5 months we both...

My wife and I have been poly for a little over a year. I have had the same girlfriend for that time. My wife struggled to find a consistent partner, so this caused a lot of stress and anxiety for her. She felt I was showing my gf too much attention and not enough towards my wife. I tried over...

@GalaGirl We have had the no separate dates rule since the beginning, but as dates canceled on us, we adjusted. I had no problem with Janelle going out on her own, but everytime I went to leave for a date, Janelle would sit in our room, pouty, sad, and making me feel guilty as hell that I...

Yes, we did decide this rule originally, but then we moved away from it because of dates getting cancelled. Which was ok for a while, but now Janelle says she can't handle staying home when I go out, for the time being. She wants to keep it as a strict rule that we only go out at the same time...

I need some advice or advice please. My wife and I have been swingers for about 6 years, but less than a year ago we expanded to poly. My wife was ready and excited for it before I was, she was essentially waiting for me to be ready. Back in August we decided to jump in and we both had...