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  1. K

    Help with insecurity

    Ok so I just read down through your responses and I both laughed and had “aha” moments. Thank you Everything you said both made sense and was constructive. My trying to micromanage absolutely is a problem. Your insight about my possibly “recreating for her a similar experience to my previous...
  2. K

    Help with insecurity

    So some of you have been following along from my insecurities post. It’s now 4:45 am the morning after (?) my partners sanctioned overnight with her other guy. Second time they’ve done this but first time they’ve gone away to do it. I’m sure they’re still asleep. She is planning on stopping...
  3. K

    Help with insecurity

    3 years. Give it take. Years ago I was married. We had an agreement I could “date” other women but nothing physical. It worked out good for things like movies and events my wife didn’t want to go to. Eventually she cheated and I left. I’d done the research about poly and she wasn’t interested...
  4. K

    Help with insecurity

    Thank you for that worksheet!! Glancing at it quickly I’m sure it will help me place my feelings and untangle the yarn. You’re right, it’s not just one thing.
  5. K

    Help with insecurity

    Yes, my reference to “this” is doing the poly thing correctly. I acknowledge that it’s different for every relationship but in my case with Amelia, it’s asking for open and up front honesty. About asking her to look at reasons why this works, (there I go worrying about how she’s making sure to...
  6. K

    Help with insecurity

    So at 2 am when I couldn’t sleep and she was awake too we had this talk. Super briefly and really I just told her my fear of being replaced down the road, that they were making these plans etc. and that I fully own that it’s my fear and has nothing to do with her. I then asked for, and received...
  7. K

    Help with insecurity

    Hi all, I am not new to polyamory, but have not practiced in a while, and this is my first time being on the side of “my partner has a new partner." Poly IS new to her. She’s uncertain why she’s even finding this guy attractive, although she admits to enjoying the attention. Background… She...
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