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  1. BrigidsDaughter

    Seeking advice on identity and grief

    I can't give you any advice, but I will say that I empathize. I recently experienced something similar with Wendigo. We are struggling to transition our relationship back to friendship after experiencing something that we both really want with each other. I won't get into the reasons why we...
  2. BrigidsDaughter

    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    I deactivated my OK Cupid profile permanently. It wasn't that I was poly saturated, though that was true at the time I was considering it, but to be honest. I love Runic Wolf and Wendigo. I really enjoy this thing that is emerging between Runic Wolf's girlfriend and myself - not really willing...
  3. BrigidsDaughter

    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Thank you, Mags. I've actually been chatting with Wendigo a little today, which makes me feel better - even if it is about video games and LARP. I sent him an e-mail letting him know that I'll always love him and nothing can change that, but I understand where he's coming from and if he needs to...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Breaking up Heartbroken. :( Wendigo ended our relationship last night, in part over a conversation that happened at the end of movie night after I wrote this. Runic Wolf joked that I might be up for a foursome and our friend seemed a little too eager. I was embarrassed and concerned that...
  5. BrigidsDaughter

    Do I speak up or butt out?

    I'm going to agree with everyone else and say that you should let him experience his relationships himself, but I'm going to give you an example. A few years ago, we invited a friend to have a threesome with the female members of our quad, as long as his girlfriend was okay with it. We gave him...
  6. BrigidsDaughter

    Do I speak up or butt out?

    Yeah, to me it sounded like a personal attack as well.
  7. BrigidsDaughter

    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Had a movie night with Runic Wolf, Wendigo, and an old former FWB/ now just friend today. It was alot of fun and I got all the cuddles I could have wanted. Didn't get as much sexy times as I'd hoped with my loves, but a girl can't always have everything she wants, right?
  8. BrigidsDaughter

    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Some days are better than others. After a great weekend, today has been rough. Mostly money issues, related to my medical bills eating up yet another paycheck and leaving us with not enough to cover the regular bills, since we couldn't punish the kiddo and skip Easter. Runic Wolf is out on a...
  9. BrigidsDaughter

    Sneaking Behind My Back.....pissed off

    I don't know. I still think it was wrong of her hubby to do that when she says she expressed to him why she felt it was inappropriate for her and him to sneak in a quickie when he asked her. I'm sure that she meant for him to realize that it was inappropriate for him to be having sexy times when...
  10. BrigidsDaughter

    Poly-Friendly Cities

    the suburbs of Syracuse, NY have a good number of poly peeps. We don't have meet ups as frequently because it's a large area and coordinating that many people takes practice, but we've had 20 people show up for a meet before. Besides myself, Runic Wolf, Wendigo, Runic Wolf's girlfriend and her...
  11. BrigidsDaughter

    Interesting Blog Post

    I did not say that I personally was offended by it, as to me I'd have to be a "breeder" to be offended by it. However, I do find the term itself offensive because it is a common place word, as NYCindie states. I also find unicorn hunting offensive. And pretty much any word that has been adopted...
  12. BrigidsDaughter

    Interesting Blog Post

    This I understand. I grew up in a very crowded home with 5 other people and 3 cats. I had my own bedroom at my grandmother's, but only stayed there part time. Otherwise, I've always shared a bedroom. I love living with my husband and son, but we all need space and typically can spend several...
  13. BrigidsDaughter

    Interesting Blog Post

    Vanquish - I find the term breeder offensive as a whole and always have as it implies that anyone who believes in procreation is intent on overpopulating the world. I am married, have exactly 1 child and would never bring another child into this world because I just can't support another...
  14. BrigidsDaughter

    Interesting Blog Post

    My son is a rules lawyer - he knows bedtime is 10pm. If I even suggest that he go to bed at 9:55 or heaven forbid, my clock is faster than the one in his room, he will argue that it isn't bed time yet. I think the point would be that a person could stick to the letter of the law and still hurt...
  15. BrigidsDaughter


    Yeah, I'm not sure why everyone is saying this isn't poly. It does sound like a harem, but also sounds like "normal" poly-fi rules. Because poli-fi is closed poly - no relationships outside the group w/o everyone in the groups consent or agreed upon consequence happen.
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    Interesting Blog Post

    I found this cross posted on Fetlife and found it interesting and entertaining. "Willy Wonka and The Polyamory Factory" Here’s a common mistake I see among newbie poly couples: Charlie has just gotten a...
  17. BrigidsDaughter

    When does it stop

    My guess is her husband talked her friends into an intervention, played the poor me card, my wife is interested in another woman, gotta put a stop to that. They convinced her you were the bad guy trying to take her away from her husband with your feminine wiles or some other nonsense. She's...
  18. BrigidsDaughter

    Husband want me to chose between him and my bf

    Generally speaking, no, we don't. However, my grandmother was a staunch believer in 'til death do us part and that the only legal and righteous reason to divorce was the biblical reason - infidelity of the spouse and abandonment of the family unit. She and my grandfather divorced for that...
  19. BrigidsDaughter

    Feeling ditched again

    No one seems to be thinking about the fact that their furnace loan was denied; they need to come up for an alternate way to pay for it, which probably means cutting down on dates anyways due to tighter finances. Going out period may be put on hold due to trying to save on gas, etc. I totally...
  20. BrigidsDaughter

    Metamour Resentful of Me..

    Sometimes venting is the first step towards making progress. Kind of like getting it all out there. It may be hard to sit through. I got caught up in NRE early on in my relationship with Wendigo, neglected Runic Wolf really bad and when things settled down and I was finally hearing him again...