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    I did the veto-ing (gasp, I know)

    I don't know that I can agree with you on this, London. He lied, he broke a rule about the fluid bonding (whether or not they ever discussed ever fluid bonding, the rule was still in place when he broke it), he wasn't going to share information with her that could have potentially run health...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    A slight misunderstanding: It was my mom that was crafting with her, not her own. Her mom lives a couple of hours away and can't be bothered to come visit us. But that's a story for another day. :) My wife loves crafting, but she does it all from home. I've tried to convince her to go out and...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    A little update on this. My wife knew from the first time I mentioned the girl, she just didn't want to talk about it. Everything is moving ahead as I hoped it would. I'm handling NRE better than I ever have. Probably won't have too many updates until January. Between the holidays and having to...
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    There's a forum called swingers board that I found before this place. They may have some good swinging advice.
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    A Unicorn's Dilemma

    Why not talk to Y about it? She's encouraging you to be with H so she should be aware of what that entails. Jealousy is difficult to overcome. If she's still encouraging you to do things alone with H, I would just take it slow. Talk to her, figure out how she feels about it, then go talk to H...
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    Do I tell my partner what my metamour said?

    Someone else made it her business. It's not like she overheard it. Someone directly confronted her about it. That means it's bad enough that it's affecting her life as well. I say bring it up just to be like, "Is any of this true? Because people are saying this to me."
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    Semi-Untested open marriage

    Yes, it's often confused for a poly site but it focuses on dishonesty. Not a good choice. Some good options are: (there are several poly subreddits and also just r4r which is a dating sub) (more for BDSM and fetishes but they have a large poly community)...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    Yes, I know. I think I said that in the first post, that it was something I am working on. I've literally never taken a relationship slowly, though, so it's going to take some serious discipline and focus.
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    Good advice. I try to keep things fresh with my wife. We do have routines that we enjoy (we always watch TV for one hour from 7 PM to 8 PM during the weekdays) but I try to shake it up as often as I can to keep her happy. It's very difficult with our opposing schedules, though. Also, thanks for...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    Agreed, everyone needs care and consideration most definitely. I think it's going to be a little unique because this girl I like lives about 2.5 hours away if I did the math right so she will obviously get less physical attention and I can't always have my phone at the ready. But, she seems to...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    I agree with that sentiment, but I'm not in a relationship with this other girl yet. As of right now we're just friends. Current relationships trump possible relationships. If no relationship forms with cupcake, her and I can still remain friends. On the other hand, if a relationship does form...
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    It's been a while, but I need some help

    Hey Poly friends! It's been a long time since I was last active here. Good to see that some of the regulars are still around. :) So, for those of you who don't know (or don't remember), I was introduced to the world of poly in 2012. For the entire year of 2012, my wife and I tried various...
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    Illinois Couple seeking Couple

    My wife and I are from Illinois and are interested in dating another poly couple. Unfortunately, we are from Central Illinois. :/ It'd still be nice to have someone to talk to, though!
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    Girls cancelling dates on SO, he's upset, not sure how to comfort him.

    Invi hasn't posted here or responded to my PM in 7 days. :S Makes me worry some.
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    Polyamory: Married and Dating - Premier July 12th

    The creator of the show reached out to my local hometown for interviews and recordings. I think it's less scripted than some people would like to believe. As far as the haters, I live in a pretty conservative, republican town. I have not yet met anyone who was that harsh to me. I suspect most...
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    Time Management

    No one has the right to tell someone else what they can or can't do. I don't think any of us here are arguing that. StrayKitten, it's up to you to figure out how you feel about this. You know how your man feels about it. Now you need to figure out if it's something you truly want. If it's not...
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    Girls cancelling dates on SO, he's upset, not sure how to comfort him.

    I would agree if that's what this is about. You're not telling him he shouldn't live this life. You're telling him it's not working for YOU. You need to make him understand that. That right now, what you need is a stable relationship where you're not the only one taking care of this kid. You're...
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    Hi New...

    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Threesomes and relationships are a big difference, as I'm sure you know. Make sure this is something you really want and not just a fantasy before you open those flood gates, because once you say it/act on it, you cannot go back. A...
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    Unless you have some reason to worry about what people know, it shouldn't matter. You are the only person you need to impress. If you think it's wrong, you'll give that off and other people will notice. For as many people as there are that worry, I think a lot of people don't need to worry...
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    New here

    She's saying that she is in a polygynous relationship, and therefore is monogamous. She's not polyamorous. Her husband is the only polyamorous (or multi-loving) person in the group, from my understanding. Although, I technically believe that 99% of humanity is polyamorous. You love both...