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  1. Ostrich

    Irony Is Dead

    OK, grab an 'oh shit' handle and hang on, this is a long post. So a lot has happened since my last post. So I will outline the major events, and then get into details on each one. Here they are in chronological order. 1. I made the decision to open up our marriage again 2. I turned 60 y/o this...
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    Irony Is Dead

    Look, I get it. The Year from Hell started over 3 1/2 years ago. However, for me, there were still some items I could not find closure on. Until yesterday. So a couple, who are friends of ours (I'll call them The Farmers), were in our development, selling their produce, jellies and jams...
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    Irony Is Dead

    So more on my mental state. My psychiatrist asked me to take a genome test, as the results would identify more specific families of drugs I could take in order to address my depression (and, as it turns out, my anxiety). I took the test and the shrink and I reviewed the results. The biggest...
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    Irony Is Dead

    A much needed update. Not sure if I mentioned depression in my previous posts, but there it is: I have depression. It's not situational. And through testing, it's definitely a chemical imbalance. I've had it for at least 20 years, if not longer. Only in the past 3 or 4 years, it's become a real...
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    How to keep focus on the primary relationship while nre.

    As someone who has experienced the other end of NRE, here's some food for thought: Reassure your partner about the status of the primary relationship, even when they don't ask for it. It goes a long way in making them feel secure. Granted, a lot of relationship work probably should have been...
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    Guilt and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    Mags. There could have been an opportunity for him to have sex with Teach on this trip. It didn't happen, mainly because Teach had a +1, so no shenanigans there. I made arrangements to cuddle with RTV and the Professor, but their bed was too small. So that didn't happen either. I was very clear...
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    Guilt and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    Kevin, Possibly that's the case. I had a really good conversation last night with DAG regarding our plans for an upcoming trip this weekend. He wants to spend some intimate time with a fellow traveler on the trip. I had been harboring some feelings about envy towards him spending time with...
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    Guilt and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    Thanks Kevin. My guilt isn't about having bad feelings towards someone, it's about my general reaction to the whole 'open marriage' situation. That's what happens when you don't talk about opening up a relationship at all. All the insecurity, envy, jealousy and other negative feelings...
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    Will Smith, Jade Pinkett Smith, and the slap at the Oscars

    Mags, DAG and I watched the special. IMO, Chris gets crazy with the cheese whiz and it sometimes comes across as mean, not funny. This writer has a really good take on Rock's Netflix special. If you wish, read this. To the point: Will slapped Chris, not Jada, so lay off Jada.
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    Will Smith, Jade Pinkett Smith, and the slap at the Oscars

    I finally watched their discussion on one of the 'Red Table Talk' sessions here. In the interview, Will states that he was almost ready to call it quits with Jada. This is when she was having the entanglement with Jaden's friend August Alsina . She was evidently in the same space as far as their...
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    Guilt and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    I know I've posted up some feel good stuff on my blog thread another section of this site and all of that is still true (read about it here). As background to those who have not had the pleasure of reading my adventures in practicing polyam, this week, we (the boys and I) are having another...
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    Irony Is Dead

    It's that time of year, the Tennessee Cabin Crew will be meeting up for our yearly trip (it seems to be turning into a tradition). This time, the cabin will be in a major US city. A couple of guys from last year won't be able to make it, but there will be a couple of new folks to be there. So...
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    Change in all the areas of my life...

    I'll check out the twitter feed. I get you, but you shouldn't feel guilty. It's unfair to yourself for comparing your situation with others. Just be happy that you have what you have! I am happy for you!
  14. Ostrich

    Change in all the areas of my life...

    @icesong What guilt are you feeling? I feel a little guilty that I raised such a ruckus about DAG dating others in the past and now I am considering opening up the marriage, just so we can explore again. Guilty that I was not OK with it in the beginning, but now I am more open and more...
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    Change in all the areas of my life...

    All of this: 'Eight years ago yesterday was the first time I met Artist - and as I told him, no matter how instantly smitten I was, there's no way I could have imagined that date turning into what we have now. I've spoken so much here about how amazing our relationship was and is, but perhaps...
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    Polyandry TV Show on TLC

    Sharing for visibility. TLC is airing a new reality series (yeah, I know, define 'reality') which covers polyandry. Here is the trailer https://www.tvinsider.com/1076063/seeking-brother-husband-tlc-trailer-video/ At the :36 and :40 marks really hit home for me. I might watch and see how...
  17. Ostrich

    Mentoring and Dating ENM Folks

    Jane: In this case, it would be an informal arrangement, vs a formal agreed upon interaction. And thanks for parsing out the actual mentor-ship from the ulterior motives of said mentor. Not sure if you were actually requesting a response from me, but thought I would fill in the blanks and hope...
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    Mentoring and Dating ENM Folks

    Thank you Kevin, GG and Evie, I appreciate the feedback. GG: Or on the other side of the coin, the person meets a noob who could be a potential partner and then decides to be the mentor. Not only getting romantically involved with the 'student' but deciding they might need help practicing...
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    Mentoring and Dating ENM Folks

    This is me working on not assuming anything by asking questions. I have seen a few posts online on a few social media sites about people mentoring and dating the same ENM folks. In other words, they are mentoring the same people they are dating in ENM/polyam. From those posts, I gather that...
  20. Ostrich

    Irony Is Dead

    Hooo, boy! Lots to update. First, I now have a love interest (that cabin trip back in March turned out to be a lot more than I hoped for lol). Rock The Vote (RTV, formerly known as Gerry) and I met during the cabin trip. He has a partner and they are practicing ENM. At the time, I thought he...
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