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    Ethical disposal of sex toys

    Thanks for always being so responsive. I am free from the relationship but can only hope I can recover from the control and psychological abuse.
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    Ethical disposal of sex toys

    I have just ended a seven-year relationship with a non-monogamous poly person. I was monogamous. My former partner's partners were questionable. I was experimenting with kink and still consider myself to be exploring! Many of the toys in question from this past relationship were purchased by...
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    Just a general question about where I am in a relationship

    I have been in this "poly" relationship for going on 6 years. I put that in quotes because I realize there is no absolute definition of the term polyamory. It changes on a whim!! My "partner" (using that loosely because I do not know if I am) is a snowbird and has been a PARTNER to someone in...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    Hello again. There has been a strange unfolding of events since my previous posts. It is that time of year again, when my partner is preparing to leave for the call of the adventurous international life. Although I received an apology from my metamour, I fear it came from my partner's...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    You are correct! I will not play into any of this! My partner's partner (metamour) is the only one doing the bullying. As I have said, I will not have it. My partner knows this, as well. He was involved by her and he knows that. I respect that he has removed himself from my decision as to how...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    Thanks for everyone's input here. Let me explain...I currently choose to not have other partners. My current relationship has lasted five years. Prior, it was a 50 year marriage with a narcissistic bully. I recognize that bullying now. The difference is I won't tolerate that anymore. My...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    UPDATE: I did make contact several times with my partner's other partner. I finally got berated (or bullied, if you will) and told how she wants to be communicated with. She set ground rules for such texts. It was my decision to reach out to her in the 1st place and now it is my decision to...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    Hi Evie, Thank you for your kind words. I am better since I returned from my vacation. I feel secondary when he is constantly checking his social media. I guess it could be anyone. I turn off my phone or other devices to not be distracted when we are together. Nothing is as important as any...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    I tend to be a jealous person and I really want to move past these feelings. That is why I chose to introduce myself to his partner, as he suggested. I would like for him to show me I have no reason to be jealous and assist me with working through those feelings, since they are affecting 'our'...
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    The Truth is hard to take but important

    NeilS, Telling your 'other' asap is very important. That was a discussion I had to have with my poly partner. Knowing that partner has the feelings before they act upon them is really very important to me at this point of my life so that means the relationship could change drastically very...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    I have always been one to verbalize love both in and out of the bedroom. But I have also come to realize that many years with my ex-spouse, we were just going thru the motions of doing this. This guy and I have talked much and agreed that while we know we are showing our love, he admits to...
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    Newbie

    Hey there! I must respond. When I was married (forever) I never thought much about STD tests. Since my divorce, I get tested at least 2x a year. These diseases sometimes don't show up for months and the sooner I know about anything the sooner I can take the necessary steps to deal with them...
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    The Truth is hard to take but important

    Thanks for sharing this. I believe communication is so very important in every aspect of relationships, setting boundaries is another. Unfortunately, life goes on to make changes that may seem very insignificant to one's relationship with others that we fail to even recognize a change took...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    Hey, Kevin. Thanks. One thing I failed to mention is that this other female is supposed to be a practicing Muslim. She risks much just dating him. They have known each other 3 times longer than he has known me. He is a self-proclaimed adventure traveler and spends 6 months in my area and 6...
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    A Couple Questions for Fetlife Users

    Hey Phoenix, good to meet you. Yes, I am on Fetlife. I came onto the kink scene about 7 years ago. You can portray yourself as whatever you would like on that site, just as you can on any dating site. I am Senior straight female in a poly relationship. Fetlife can introduce you to just about...
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    Ignorance or Confusion

    I have been divorced for 6 years, after a 44-year marriage. I met someone who made me realize I was wasting my time with one person who I believed could do everything for me. He was ENM and told me upfront about his relationships/lifestyle, which he described as poly. I am no longer ignorant...
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