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  1. Magdlyn

    Am I being unreasonable?

    I'm sorry you and your gf hit a snag. I recall she's try to conceive and you were concerned about that. What do you mean by, you've broken up, but are still trying to have a relationship?
  2. Magdlyn

    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    Level 2 pain out of 10 is nothing. I've got arthritis and I live in 4-7 land on the daily. I take 2 tramadol and 4 acetaminophen a day just to get my 7 down to a 4 and I don't think I "should" take more than that! I don't think she "should" try and get down to a 0 lol
  3. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    I appreciate your brief summations. True. The influence of feminism and the increasing equality of women has impacted all these areas, especially the enrollment of women in institutes of higher learning. Their power in the workplace and in especially in government (which you don't mention)...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    I'm glad it went okay, except that you somehow felt the pain despite being under general anesthesia. You did well, and I am sure you'll recover quickly and still be able to enjoy the summer!
  5. Magdlyn

    Trans, dysphoria getting in the way of opening up.

    I'm glad you posted again. Hi. One of our members, Galagirl, often shares a list of poly-friendly therapists. You could maybe do a search of her posts and find it, if she doesn't come in to this thread. I've done quite a bit of therapy and I always share everything lol. I don't see the point of...
  6. Magdlyn

    Most commonly cited advice articles master thread

    https://davidlnoble.livejournal.com/176039.html So, someone called you a unicorn hunter?
  7. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    Well, those conservative men sure don't sound like they hold to the "family values" of the time when America was "great" (in a fictional 1950s kind of world), where men ruled the household and women stayed in their lane, in the kitchen, honoring and obeying, keeping only unto him, pregnant and...
  8. Magdlyn

    Vicki's Journey Continues...

    More hugs, Vicki.
  9. Magdlyn

    Greetings from Oregon...new member

    Oops, lol I missed that.
  10. Magdlyn

    Had a foursome for the first time and it's been hard! Advice on processing new experiences & raising self-confidence in poly/swinger relationship

    Of course you wouldn't be as comfortable with foursome sex. They'd all done that before (maybe they're all swingers, or former swingers?), but you hadn't. Nobody is going to be a champ at something the first time they do it. You mentioned upthread that they sprung the idea of group sex on you...
  11. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    Yay! Thanks, Inaniel. Much better. I started to read it. Their "rules" are shit, but there is lots of other good info in there. From the Bible/David section:
  12. Magdlyn

    Greetings from Oregon...new member

    You live in "Potland" and are afraid you're too alternative? How is that even possible? I live in Massachusetts, but I visited friends in Tacoma, Portland and Seattle in 2008 for a week, and found it to be super groovy/hippie/pagan/alternative/artsy/natural.
  13. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    That is highly debatable. If you're going along with polyamory out of fear of loss, or some other negative emotion, and you're not happy, it's not about amory. You're not doing it to give and get love. You're doing it out of fear. We don't want poly to be about fucking FEAR! I wouldn't be part...
  14. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    No, it's not just "with the knowledge of everyone involved;" it definitely includes "with the informed consent of all players," as well. And being informed and actually feeling good about this choice is part of it, to many of us. How many people come here who have been hit with the poly bomb...
  15. Magdlyn

    Spouse comes out as poly, how to support?

    https://polyamory.com/threads/most-commonly-cited-advice-articles-master-thread.155304/ List of articles, books and podcasts about poly, all highly recommended by our staff and members.
  16. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    Can you be a sexist, male chauvinist, authoritarian, patriarchal, misogynistic person and be polyamorous? I think you can't. Unless you insist on a OPP. And if you do that, it's basically just harem building. The man has several female lovers/wives, and these women can't have sex with other men...
  17. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    Couples that want prescribed triads, where their "third" is almost always a HBB (hot bi babe) who is meant to be equally attracted to both the guy and the woman, to agree to only having threeway sex or dates with them, to "stay in her lane" as a secondary, to follow the couple's "rules" without...
  18. Magdlyn

    Polyamory is/is not a feminist movement

    Are these far right winger, Trump-supporting (conservative "Christian" [?]) polyamorists egalitarian, where both the men and women have the full right to have relationships with any gender, or are they of the patriarchal sort, where the men have multiple "wives," but the women all have to only...
  19. Magdlyn

    Limerence/attachment/new relationship energy/infatuation/whatever it’s called

    If you want to really be prepared, it would be best to wait a while before going all in with Shrum. Most couples who were formerly mono but want to open their relationship to either casual sex or full-on polyamory do best when they do research for at least a year. You don't sound ready because...
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    Had a foursome for the first time and it's been hard! Advice on processing new experiences & raising self-confidence in poly/swinger relationship

    Yeah, it might have been better to have just had a more casual non-sexual evening for y'all's first time meeting Jane. Dinner, maybe doing an activity, such as billiards or darts or cards or walking in a park, or whatever. At least get acquainted first. Just because Jane "wanted" you and John...
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