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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Mistake I've made a decision, faced a fact, come to a realization. For me the whole poly thing is a huge mistake. I regret that Lovely got hurt in the process. Truly I do, I wish there was a way to fix that, but there isn't. I really have to give kudos to those of you who make this work...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Oh well, live and learn Our triad is no more. I have completely removed my okcupid ad and I'm not sure that I will ever do this again. At least not the triad thing. In some ways I feel like that what I've learned is that I have neither the time nor energy to devote to more than one romantic...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Thanks, Annabel :) That's the focus of everything right now. Because it makes her feel safe, she's sleeping in the bed with us, between us. Though she doesn't want Bear to touch her sexually, she does know that he /will/ protect her and just being beside him is helping. Because I didn't know...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Things have been crazy Sorry, I haven't been posting. Things got hectic, crazy, insane... I didn't have time to sit down and write. A lot has happened. The relationship with Lovely has been progressing nicely. She doesn't know that I have flipped and flopped and waffled about the whole poly...
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    is it wrong to look at others while with one?

    I think it's about the insecurity of the person that has an issue with it. Bear and I routinely check out other people. He checks out just women, I check out women and men. Neither of us feels threatened. :::shrug:::
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    How Much Sex is Enough Sex?

    It seems to me that the priorities at home need to be straightened out before other partners are added. And yes, you guys most certainly need to schedule regular dates!
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    Any successful closed triads I could chat with?

    I'm new to this whole thing and in a closed triad. The one thing the three of us do ALL the time is talk, talk, talk. There are some things coming up that we are going to have to talk about. For instance, Lovely and her daughter are going to live with us for a while because she is relocating...
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    How to turn a girl into a Unicorn

    Ahhhh, well, thank God! (or deity of your choice). I wanted to reach through the computer and strangle someone! LOL
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    Need Some Advice

    The first thing that stands out to me is that if your relationship is so unstable that you fear she might leave you for someone else, then the last thing you need to do is try a poly relationship. Poly will not fix anything. My advice would be to work on communication and building trust in your...
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    Biblical Christian Poly Living

    Btw, I'm a church pianist. Bear is an ordained minister...
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    Biblical Christian Poly Living

    I'd like to have this conversation out here in the open instead of via pm and email. I think it's a subject that really needs to be explored as there are probably a lot of Christians that practice polyamory. AND, polygamy is starting to have some acceptance in mainstream society. It's only a...
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    Biblical Christian Poly Living

    Hey cool! I'm glad this thread got bumped! Recently a very good friends of mine and Bear's accused us of having an adulterous relationship. Nice. Real nice. You can actually read about it over in Rhinestone Ramblings in PolyBlogs : )
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    Help having problems with the wife of our triad.....

    Get your own place, move out, and continue your relationship with just him.
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    How to turn a girl into a Unicorn

    Have you ever heard the expression, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink."? Love is the same way. You cannot force someone to love you. Love cannot be compelled. I'm afraid I agree with the others... it seems that you're bordering on being a stalker, and you need...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Oh, no, that came across wrong. I was a little worried when I made that post so I wasn't as clear as I should have been.
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Never ask "What next?" I didn't do that, btw. Just a friendly warning. This afternoon I went to the doctor for a routine checkup. While there I asked him to look at a rash on my neck. He looked. He took a picture. Then he told me that it's neither an allergic reaction nor psoriasis. Based...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Whew! Bear and I talked at lunch. All is well. He finds our friend's reaction to be somewhat hypocritical, and like I said in the previous post, that our friend has him on a pedestal. Ya know... I just like to be honest and open with those that I think aren't going to judge me. I never...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Nah, Bear knew from the get-go that I'm bi and has never had a problem with it. I certainly wouldn't have married him without telling him! LOL And yes, there are LOTS of instances of polygamy in the OT, and I have a really hard time believing that none of Solomon's 400 wives and 700 concubines...
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    Rhinestone Ramblings

    Over before it began? A really good friend of mine and Bear's sent an email to both of us last night. Bear has been friends with this guy for more than 20 years and really respects his opinion. But, before I get there some background... Bear is an ordained minister. He's let his license lapse...
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    Question for the ladies

    A slight twist on what Ciel said... my understanding of cuckolding is that the "husband" is forced to watch another man /take/ his wife, and not in a good way. That it's intended to wound emotionally.
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