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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    6:32 p.m., Friday the 24th In addition to the quiche/eggs, we had sausage and tater tots. Awesome dinner. I don't know what we'll have for dinner tonight, I've been trying to fast, although I did earlier have a bottle of (lite) beer, and a can of Sanpellegrino.
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    Am I being unreasonable?

    It seems that she wants an arrangement with more freedom and autonomy -- perhaps more so than what you would feel comfortable with. This is a point of incompatibility between the two of you, and you might have to decide whether this is a deal breaker for you. It doesn't sound like she's willing...
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    Am I being unreasonable?

    Hi afireinaleo, It was unreasonable to handle the initial problem without any grace, however it is reasonable to suggest you discuss each other's feelings with each other before starting a new relationship. Mind you, reasonable doesn't mean she is obligated to agree to your idea. You will just...
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    A Struggling Mono Intro

    Hello navigatingnewwaters, Your list of ways to set up a trial separation looks good -- and I do think you need a trial separation. You and your partner have come up against some hard incompatibilities. You will have to think about how you can move past that -- and about whether moving past it...
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    Hello Maisy, Poly is all about multiple relationships with mutual consent. If someone doesn't consent, then it can't be poly. It sounds like B wasn't very considerate of your feelings. They certainly didn't get your consent ahead of time, nor after the fact. They gave R all kinds of special...
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    Hi all!

    Greetings Maisy, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. I'm glad you could join, and I hope we are able to answer your questions for you. It sounds like you have some experience in poly, and maybe you're just looking for a new perspective. Sincerely, Kevin...
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    Hi from Virginia Beach

    Greetings MyPay9, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. You sound like a nice person, I am glad you could join, and I hope you enjoy your stay. We're not great as a dating site, but you can certainly meet new people here, and make new friends. If you have...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    3:38 p.m., Thursday the 23rd SB is making quiche for her and BH tonight. I don't like quiche, so SB says she'll make me some fried eggs. I'm a lucky guy.
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    Spouse comes out as poly, how to support?

    Greetings Zooffiee, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. Polyamory is all about loving more than one person -- with the consent of all of the loved persons, of course. Here are a few links that may help:
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    Limerence/attachment/new relationship energy/infatuation/whatever it’s called

    Hello Gin, I would call it NRE. NRE makes it hard for us to remember to take care of our original partner. You are experiencing some NRE, and Jack is noticing that and maybe he feels a little bit left out. Hopefully your work with your therapist/s can help sort some of that out. The good news...
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    Had a foursome for the first time and it's been hard! Advice on processing new experiences & raising self-confidence in poly/swinger relationship

    Hi Sally, Foursomes are complicated, due to the number of moving parts. You never know when someone is going to feel left out. In this case, you were the one who was left out. I'm sorry you had to experience that. I see that you want to feel better about things. Maybe you even feel like you...
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    Glad Tidings From New York

    Greetings Jake, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. I am 58, so just a couple of years behind you. I have been in an MFM V for over 18 years, so I may be able to provide you with some info about poly. Just let me know if you have any questions. It sounds like you and...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    1:24 p.m., Wednesday the 22nd Yeah, that's what I'll be having tonight as well. Yesterday we had veggie burgers with beans and cucumber with onion in vinegar.
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    6:11 p.m., Tuesday the 21st SB made us salad for dinner yesterday. She put boiled eggs in it, which made me really happy. Also she opened a bottle of sweet plum wine for us, which also made me happy. For tonight, I think she's making dinner now, but I don't know what she's making.
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    Finding NP/primary partner

    Hello dorcia, I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time finding a nesting/primary partner, you are not doing anything wrong, you deserve a man who will be there for you for life. I think you just need to keep trying, there must be someone out there who is right for you. I wonder if you...
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    We Need You! Participant Recruitment for CNM Research (with incentives)

    Hello Min, I have done your survey, it wasn't hard to do although I'll mention that I only have one partner, while that partner has two partners (me and one other guy). If I took the survey and had multiple partners myself, I'd have to choose one of those partners to pertain to the survey for...
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    Greetings David, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. You might want to check out a couple of poly FAQ pages: Poly FAQ Loving More FAQ See if anything from the above two web pages raises any new questions for you, then come back here and post those questions. Also you...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    3:38 p.m., Monday the 20th We had pizza last night (from Straight Up Pizza), plus a cannoli each and SB also broke out a bottle of sweet wine. After dinner we watched a movie (Dumb and Dumber To). Not much else to tell you, today is an easier day than yesterday so far.
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    Southern Poly Lesbians?

    Hello PassengerPrincess, I'm not sure how you can find southern poly lesbians, I guess you could google "polyamory" with the name of your state or nearest major city, and see if any local poly groups pop up. That wouldn't get you exactly what you're looking for, but it might be a place to...
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    Excitement is a Lonely Place

    Hi abnorm, I'll be excited with you, if you want. Being polyamorous is a really big deal, something people should celebrate with you, not just say, "Oh, well, whatever." I hope your upcoming therapist shares in your excitement. Sincerely, Kevin T.