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  1. vmsmith

    Grokking Poly

    I grok. Thank you, my water brother. :)
  2. vmsmith

    Grokking Poly

    First Date So, my wife and I attended a couple of local poly meetups and they went very well, we both had a good time and met lots of interesting people. I met one very interesting couple and received an invite for coffee the next day. My wife and I talked it over, she felt comfortable with the...
  3. vmsmith

    Grokking Poly

    Although I've been on the Internet since 14.4 modems, I've never really subscribed to online forums, and so I'm about as new to this stuff as I am to poly. I made a very brief introduction here, and a bit longer one here with my first real poly question to to the board. Sometimes I don't really...
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    Should I still be friends with her?

    All very good points, GalaGirl. Thank you!
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    Should I still be friends with her?

    Victoria, thank you for your concern, but I'm not seeking validation, the one true answer, or to change anyone's mind. I was seeking only perspective and opinions and I received them, and they are various. I am quite capable of making my own decisions based on my own values and beliefs. I...
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    Should I still be friends with her?

    Sparkelpop, thank you for your insightful and compassionate words, and SchrodingersCat, I like the way you cut to the chase. I realize that people need to paint a picture based on my short summary in order to frame their advice, and while I acknowledge that I may also be biased, I would like...
  7. vmsmith

    Should I still be friends with her?

    GalaGirl and WhatHappened, thank you for your replies. I know it sounds messy, I guess details have a way of being that way. I'd like to take your advice, but its very hard to let a good friend go. I honestly have no other friends with whom I have been so close. We have had conversations about...
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    Should I still be friends with her?

    Thanks, Marcus, that's generally where my head is at. There is a selfish part of me that sorta hopes it doesn't work out because then we could be together again, but outwardly I try to be very supportive. I know that my presence has an effect, though she constantly reminds me that I am only...
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    Should I still be friends with her?

    So, before I explain the question, I need to provide the obligatory backstory. My wife (S) and I had been talking about opening for a couple of years, but progress was frustratingly slow. In the meantime I met and fell in love with someone at work (M) and it turned into an affair. We both...
  10. vmsmith

    Poly folk in Mpls?

    Excellent! My wife and I are planning to attend both the St Paul meetup (2/5) and the Minneapolis meetup (2/22). We're new and a bit nervous, but pretty sure it will be OK. :)
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    How do I edit a post?

    I posted a very short intro in the Personal Summaries thread, figuring that I would edit/expand on it when I had more time (as the first post in the thread suggests). However, I'm can't see how to edit the post now, can someone point me in the right direction? Thanks.
  12. vmsmith

    Personal Summaries

    newb Hi, all. I'm a 38 year old male married for 19 years and moving into an open marriage. My wife and I had been experimenting with swinging for a couple of years but she just wasn't into it. As we've learned more and shed many of our traditional assumptions, the possibility of a poly/mono...
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