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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    She has been starting to talk to me more. Yesterday she freely spoke of "D" in casual conversation without me bringing it up. She also finally told me where she disapeared to til 3am - (skeptical of course) that she went out with friends "D" was there, swears on fathers grave they never had...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    I recently had posted a thread on AskMen.com and one person pointed me to a book called "No More Mr Nice Guy" and have since read half the book (I dont even read my text books for University, so it says a lot) and it really is not a good thing to have the "Nice Guy" syndrome, as others mentioned...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    I know that when you say something like this it probably means you shouldn't be in the relationship. However, I wish there was a way for her to prove to me she is genuine about her relationship with me (and doesnt hurt to make sure its nothing more then her getting her rocks off with some hot...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    Well she says there is no emotions involved but yeah I can agree with that. As previously mentioned if neither of them are looking to have a more than friends with benefits relationship then it should not be a problem for her to tell them. If he is not looking for a relationship either than he...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    Again appreciate you guys talking this out for me. To follow up on your responses I must say that I do somewhat understand that if she is physically attracted to someone (she is very particular) that it would be difficult to go to the guy and just tell him she is in a relationship - I know that...
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    Guidelines & Boundaries vs. Rules: Merged Threads, General Discussion

    Thought I would let everyone know I am still here and I am still with said significant other for the time being. We are still having ups and downs. I agree to the feeling that this isn't quite the same poly relationship I have been reading about. Im still working out how I feel about the...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    I did that, her reaction was that "she makes sure its nothing more than friends" she explains that if she tells them she is in a serious relationship it would make things awkward It sounds logical explanation but at the same time - if he knows the situation he likely not to care I wouldnt think...
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    My girlfriend wants open relationship I need help and advice

    She seems to be satisfied with the sex we have so to her she says there is no emotion behind having sex with others and they are just friends and she cannot explain to me why she cannot just have "friends" with them but needs to have sex with them as well? she has no explanation to that as...
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    Guidelines & Boundaries vs. Rules: Merged Threads, General Discussion

    I just dont get her, its like she says i can have the same thing as her - but then ever girl that comes around see seems to get jealous or something and says oh this person is horrible and if you ever sleep with her you should pour acid on your parts ... Its like she wants this to go one way...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    well you guys know the saying its easier to give advice than to take it.. i think i agree with you but i just dont know how to do it
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    Guidelines & Boundaries vs. Rules: Merged Threads, General Discussion

    In new development i tried to speak with her (now its only been two days and only spoke once for a couple hours about this open relationship) and she is completely shutting me down. She says she is tired of repeating things, its just casual sex nothing more. She just thinks a quick...
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    Ack!

    If you have both agreed that you no longer want to be together i dont see why you shouldnt be happy with other people. However, if he still wants to be with you I think its best to at least separate to a place of your own before doing this to avoid serious problems (just watch the news these...
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    Husband has certain expectations

    Im a very sexual straight male and sometimes drive my girlfriend crazy. Honestly I do feel like it is a problem, sometimes I know I am overdoing it. I do have ADHD but not to be vulgar I do get horny a lot, even if sometimes I dont want to have sex I feel as though I need to be touchy and of...
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    Guidelines & Boundaries vs. Rules: Merged Threads, General Discussion

    Thanks I needed the reminder to just step back and maybe see how things pan out. The thought occurred to me that to build this trust we could take a break or she could even move out for a while and then we can see if we still feel the same way and want to go forward. I guess I can only gauge...
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    Is it normal to have open relationship with same person?

    I dont understand why she would admit to where she was, but not admit to having sex with him. Get home at 3am? I dont even know how long she has been talking to and/or seeing this guy before she admitted it. So she is still keeping some things from me. And she gets angry when I try to talk...
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    Is it normal to have open relationship with same person?

    The reason I freaked out about her coming home at 3 am is because SHE NEVER TOLD ME that she wanted an open relationship, she didnt call me she didnt answer phone or text. She says she never had sex with the guy yet. However, Im 90% she did, you dont stay out til 3am with another guy doing...
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    Is it normal to have open relationship with same person?

    I dont understand how you can have a "friend" relationship without feeling anything. I have friends (dont have sex with them) but I care about them. So how is it that there is no emotional connection and just casual sex if they are also hanging out as friends would?
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    My girlfriend wants open relationship I need help and advice

    My impression, and her descriptions is she likes to have guy friends, she likes the attention and they are just friends but there is no emotional relationship like she and I have, to her it is just sex. I do find it confusing because you do have emotions even for a friend? So how can there...
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    Im new - my gf wants open relationship, i need help

    I would love that, but if you knew her you would know that would NEVER happen. She doesnt want me to talk to anyone else about this. She doesnt want anyone else to know about this thing "open relationship" she feels embarrassed about it (so she says) and she admits that its not normal and...
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