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    Engaged Woman Seeking Help

    You cant HAVE everything and everyone. (EXPECTATIONS0 You can still LOVE them both unconditionally. (GIVING.. NOT TAKING) You want to have your cake & eat it too. Love is just GIVING. Relationship & Fairytales are just EXPECTATIONS. Taking & Wanting more. How would you feel if Bob had...
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    Engaged Woman Seeking Help

    The truth shall set you free..
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    Best Osho book on Free Open Love

    Best Osho book on Free Open Love. I love how Osho expounds on Love not being limited and held back. How many of you have read Osho and like his work on this space? I've read several books. I'd like to know your thoughts on whats the best on Free Open Love relationships.. or lack of binding...
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    My wife's insecurtiy

    Read more on Control Dramas.. :) http://www.geocities.com/athens/delphi/2911/controldr.html http://www.relationshipspecialists.com/articles/the-four-control-dramas-from-the-celestine-prophecy/ http://www.meaningoflife.i12.com/dramas.htm...
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    My wife's insecurtiy

    It took me 7.5 years to understand that my ex was a drama queen. I think the most primary element of insecurity comes from a childhood past (as was in the case of ex). Some abandonment issues from back then? Sometimes people cheat to simple validate themselves in the absence of their...
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    Buddha Dharma & Polyamory

    Lovely post.
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    Have you ever been in such an equation before? Probably not. All I'll say is Poly is hard to come to terms with... It is a reality breaking paradigm. I have barely begun to see why it exists and is so natural. It may be NATURAL, but given double digit years of PROGRAMMING.. its NOT EASY to...
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    Your context of love is an 'action' & 'verb'. Doing. The 'love' I talk about is 'your true nature'. There is no doing. Your love is still defined as action & relationship between 2 separate parties.. the illusion of separation and the notion of 'doing' i.e. taking action. Sat-Chit-Ananda...
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    Ah! I'm glad someone here gets it. For me it started with a Satori :) and I hoped to find it again and then 2.5 years later the journey began... I guess polyamory is the more extended search for that True Nature.
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    JRiver - I think you are as close as it gets on these forums to what I have experienced. Mono & XYZ - I dont see the value in dissecting the psych analysis you have written. I have done the same for years.. Its the intellectual analytical way... Excuse me if you feel that I am responding to...
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    cant it be easier?

    Now, that my friend is TRUE LOVE. TRUE BLISS. TRUE GRATITUDE. TRUE GRACE. TRUE BEING. EACH MOMENT... That love is barely understood or even ever felt by most. Here I mentioned the love/fear dynamic / motivator thats most prevalent in the everyday life of most people and drives them to ...
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    We have messed up our children. They are smarter much sooner because of exposure.. But are they happier? We rob them of their innocence. We rob ourselves of our own innocence. I am talking True Nature.. not Socially & Parental programmed nature. We begin by teaching them to WORRY...
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    Poly and single?

    Ceoli. I completely agree with your post. I have not met or been with any poly groups.. But have had an open loving relationship with a girl. We might have started casual but began to care for each other.. and still do.. (we did date other people in between) Ofcourse, distance logistics...
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    What is our true nature? As children did we every hold on to Old issues or worry about the Future? Children live in the Moment. In the present... They have within them always the following energies naturally (unless ofcourse exceptional circumstances).. - Love - Natural affinity &...
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    cant it be easier?

    Good luck :) Everything in life stems from ... Love of something (desire, want, need, craving etc) or Fear of something.. (fear, insecurity, anxiety etc) The more you guys shift in the direction of Love being the motivator of things in your life v/s fears.. :)
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    Which is why the conscious must rise because the unconscious is driven by reaction. People are not their thoughts & emotions. They think they are and it brings them all kinds of sadness. (Peaceful Warrior). No. I am not talking in terms of just an attractive person. I am talking about...
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    cant it be easier?

    YGirl - I am no psychologist or doctor. The collective traits of what I have observed & endured with the Ex are what I found under the Bipolar umbrella. In the end Bipolar is just a word that implies X number of characteristics. Not everyone may or may not have the same charcaters. I am not...
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    cant it be easier?

    Point made Fidelia. :) The only reason I posted was when I read this thread I was shocked to find it match up word for word what I had been through with the ex & her patterns. Its as if he was describing ME & HER. PS: I am not doing any straight off "bipolar" judgement on anyone. I dont know...
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    New to Poly Amory - Experiences, Thoughts, Feelings and Questions

    In fact I think the primary reason for people seeking Mono Commitments is ..Security, Stability & Predictability. Its easier managed. But its not Mono they really want.. They want the assurance of S, S & P that comes with it. But, true security can only come from within... No matter how much...
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    cant it be easier?

    Oh!.. Well.. From what I have read, learnt and know about Bipolar disorder.. It makes people swing high low super fast.. One moment happy and another suicidal. And extremely unaware that this is happening to them. I've seen that pattern big time in 2-3 women. So, maybe you do not fall into the...
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