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  1. BirdieMakes3

    How to explain relationship to a child-- stepfather and stepmother roles

    See my sig and Blog for more details . . . I would consider us more Polygamy than Polyamory in some ways. We are not seeking any others into our family circle for the foreseeable future. I am living in a tiny home on their property. I have a young child who is loving and bright. I have 50/50...
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    Mod Posted on Behalf: Husband wants to see other women

    Has he talked to his doctor about these side effects? There might be another med he can take to counter this, or maybe his meds need to be adjusted. My ex (and co parent to our child) has mental illness. When his meds need adjusted he sees his doctor and they are "tweaked." This has in the...
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    Homesteading Triad, Dynamics, and the Family Calendar

    This life is both complete and lonely. I cannot share my very special relationship and family with my co workers, casual friends, neighbors, or the general public. To do so would risk my job and other negative consequences. Living in the country, and in our area of the country, there are many...
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    Homesteading Triad, Dynamics, and the Family Calendar

    Meow and I went on a road trip to attend the funeral of one of my family members. Although it was sad to lose them, they lived a good long life. Which made me think more about living life while you can, loving, celebrating. And although our way of life is not conventional, neither are we, and...
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    My current situation

    It is okay if you are poly and your wife is mono. Sometimes couples make that work. My Sir's wife is monogamous but accepts that her husband is not. We have a nice arrangement of mutual respect and love. However not everyone is wired for that. It's a difficult place to be.
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    Allosexual husband of an asexual wife explores options

    Thank you for sharing your story. I have not read all of the comments on the many pages that have followed. I'm in a relationship where my partner has different needs that each of his female partners are able to fill, and we all seem to balance each other well and fulfill the needs not met by...
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    Homesteading Triad, Dynamics, and the Family Calendar

    Lots of small wildfires in our area right now. The closest ones was 2.5 miles away, this morning, but the wind was blowing it away from our property. Within a few hours it had been put out. The volunteer firefighters were busy with a tractor and water truck to create a fire line on someone's...
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    Finding NP/primary partner

    I have had relationships where I date someone who is mono, but they know about my ENM background. We made an agreement to proceed in the relationship as either monogamous or me being ENM and them being okay with that. It has been different situation in different stages of my life. For example...
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    Homesteading Triad, Dynamics, and the Family Calendar

    Today Meow and I went into town to do shopping and laundry. We had some nice heart to heart talks on the drive there and back. It's nice to have family harmony and love, and a built in friend in each other.
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    Finding NP/primary partner

    You sound like a beautiful person! I could have written much of what you expressed--- the previous experience being secondary, and the history if abusive or dysfunctional relationships. Kind souls like us are often the victims of abuse and being taken for granted. We have "soft" boundaries where...
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    Homesteading Triad, Dynamics, and the Family Calendar

    Short entry-- Family sleepover night. Apparently I was snoring and restless. I do remember Sir telling me to roll over a couple of times. So, no one got any sleep. I am embarrassed and told them next time just send me back to my tinyhome I won't be offended at all. They said nope we love cuddles...
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    Struggling with Partner Becoming a Parent When I Don't Want Kids

    As a parent myself, I think you could possibly save this relationship. When I had my children I very much lost part of who I was--- it was all about taking care of the children, especially when they were babies. I would have LOVED if I'd had another partner or best friend who could remove me...
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    A Struggling Mono Reflection

    I think you have been very generous in allowing your spouse to seek relationships elsewhere. I would suggest that he make some fellow poly friends, so he can hang out with them and share about his partners, rather than bringing it home to you. Maybe have a loving talk with him, and ask him to...
  14. BirdieMakes3

    Don't know what to do...

    Welcome, I'm new here too, but not to poly. Your husband sounds a bit like my first husband. I am not bi, but I am poly. I think counseling is really the way to go here. Maybe counseling for you first, to learn how to communicate what you need to. He is probably thinking his world, which is...
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    My poly girlfriend wants to have a child with her husband.

    Thank you for posting this for all of us :-)
  16. BirdieMakes3

    New to poly-- failed triad

    I'm going to my doctor tomorrow already, I'll ask about it, Thanks!
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    My poly girlfriend wants to have a child with her husband.

    Re-reading your answer, I wonder if the husband is wanting to have a child with her to solidify their bond and relationship, in light of her having closeness with you.
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    My poly girlfriend wants to have a child with her husband.

    You sound like a very open and caring person. I do think that talking to the husband is something you need and deserve to have happen. Right now she has all the veto power-- and he might too. You have no rights and that is not fair, unless you agreed to this in the beginning. Sometimes we don't...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    By the way, I can totally relate to being hot under the blankets!! I usually am asked to sleep in the middle when we three are sharing a bed. I have hot flashes! But I'm the best choice for the middle because Meow has a CPAP machine, and Sir gets up a lot with prostate issues to pee at night. So...
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    My poly girlfriend wants to have a child with her husband.

    How do all of you feel about the child being part of all your lives? It can work if you all feel that the child can be loved by all of you. Have you talked to her husband, met him, discussed this? Maybe husband would be fine with watching baby and giving her some nice free time to relax and...
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