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    Hi, I'm fine, you?

    Hi, I'm fine, you?
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    First poly experience - Crashed but recovering

    I actually love this thread and linked it to my husband to look at. There is a lot of information within it, and advice. But you so wonderfully laid out a lot of what I was experiencing that I had difficulty putting into words. We did not enter into Poly because of an emotional affair however...
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    Feeling lost in open relationship

    Hsun, You sound like you process a lot like I do, lol. These are some situations and also thoughts that have crept into my head as well. Some has been resolved by really, really trying to put myself into his place and understanding that yes its exciting, yes its fun, yes maybe a little...
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    Got an eye opener with STD today..

    I'm not concerned with pregnancy, I'm done having children. And Ive read up on the disease and the stigma of contracting it worries me more then the actual disease. It would be nice if it could be destigmatised, but with all things like this that takes time.
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    Got an eye opener with STD today..

    I did a lot of research on it last night, and I agree Rose there is a stigma around it that should be changed. They were tested, which came back negative (But ive also read they could have tested too soon as well). Read a lot about the possibility of contracting it, if protections were used...
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    Got an eye opener with STD today..

    The girl my husband is seeing (he has had no sexual contact with her yet), her husbands partner tested positive for Herpies 2... Its freaking us out a bit. They just found out. Honestly it has spooked my husband and myself a bit and were trying to read up on it. What now? Ive been doing...
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    Husband on a date

    Thanks for the advice Love Bunny. I am chatting with one guy who has piqued my interest. I hadn't talked to him more then a few random texts for a while, but he is starting to open up and chat more, and refreshingly normal chat. We will see where this one leads..
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    Husband on a date

    It didn't go well. I wasnt feeling it and had him bring me home after a couple hours. And then he proceeded to bombard me with texts for another date. Ive had 2 guys get this way now, and its kind of frustrating. No chill. I don't know how you girls manage to filter through and decide who...
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    Husband on a date

    Thanks KDT.. I think we are :)
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    Navigating ex wife concerns

    I agree with Angel, Dont get involved. Courts DO NOT like anyone but the parents directly being involved in anything court related. The suggestion for a hotel is a good one. Pick your battles with issues in family courts. And I would never suggest getting FOC involved.. Never, they run your...
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    book review/suggestion

    I would recommend More then Two, its the book that has helped me the most so far. I did read the Ethical Slut, but it really was not what I was looking for. Opening up is on my read list. More then Two also has a website to give you a little idea of what is in the book.
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    Husband on a date

    Everything went well, and husband and I enjoyed the rest of the evening together. He did not go to sleep right away ;) Date night for me tonight... a second date so we will see how it goes :)
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    Husband on a date

    Aw Thanks.. I think Ill be fine, and he isnt having a late night since he was working all day. But I definitly appreciate that offer :)
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    Husband on a date

    I'm doing fine so far. A little hiccup because he didnt let me know when he got there (we always let each other know when we arrive) and an hour had passed, but thats all. Other then that Ive been fine. Just doing housework actually to pass the time. He will likely be very tired when he gets...
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    Husband on a date

    His second one with the new girl, or he will be anyhow. He had to work a 12 hour shift today and is headed over to her house right after. I'm trying to occupy myself. I feel calmer then I have in the past, but I know he is still at work atm. We all met up last week, GF and her husband...
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    Two options. Trying to understand choice.

    The masturbating, bwahahaha. But yes, I'm working on finding a friend to come over. Ive been networking within our poly community here, and hopefully I will have someone when I need it.
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    Two options. Trying to understand choice.

    We sat and realized in reality we are 4 months into all of this, of actual hard experiences and reading and reaching out. Not giving ourselves enough time to adjust to something that is so different then how we were brought up. Just giving each other the time to go through the swings that will...
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    Two options. Trying to understand choice.

    No its not important to me. I know it wont always be possible. It doesn't have to be a turn on, but If I can be happy and enjoy his enjoyment, it feels there is a "key" there to perhaps explore in wrapping my head around the insecurity. If I can find enjoyment in his enjoyment, then I know there...
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    Two options. Trying to understand choice.

    I know that all of this comes down to, being afraid of the private intimacy. We havent had this yet. This is my roadblock. So, how does everyone rationalize,or think of it? I'm close to it, I can feel it. I can masturbate thinking of my husband with another woman (even if I'm not present...
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    Two options. Trying to understand choice.

    I do tend to do this, focus on what they are or are not doing for me. That can be a very frustrating path because it's much easier to control your own actions then other people. Yeah I tend to just get lost in whatever is bothering me rather than just trying to distract myself somehow...
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