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    a hard feelings evening...

    Further update for the moment-- from our discussion, it actually turned out that he's no longer considering dating this person at all, and had decided that pretty quickly into the trip. It also turns out this person no longer wants to pursue romantic relationships with anyone for the moment and...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    Thank you very much for your support. Today I did talk to him and unfortunately I was really really angry and upset and genuinely thought the relationship was over. But I can see now I’d just gotten way too overwhelmed, like you said can happen, and kind of completely melted down. We talked for...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    I feel pretty stupid now, writing all this out. We’ve broken pretty much every rule in the damn book of “what not to do”. I don’t know how I let it get to this point, I feel really stupid. But I think we’re done. At least I know that.
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    a hard feelings evening...

    Thanks for your kind words, Magdlyn. He’s away for a week. They’ve been friends online (at some point they were in a situationship) for about 4 years. To make things more complicated, we’ve both been what I call “medium distance” (about a 2 hour drive) from each other for the whole of our...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    It definitely does feel like he’s getting carried away with the NRE in some aspects, so I’ll make sure to keep that in mind when we talk. And thank you for the encouragement. I knew that this path was far from the easy one when we started down it, but I’m doing my best to trust myself to take...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    Hi Kevin, thank you very much for your support and kind words :) I responded above you to someone else about my replacement fears and such, and I’m not quite sure how to link that in my reply as I’ve seen others do. But I do agree that my feelings right now have less to do with becoming...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    Hi! Thanks for your reply and the link :) I have read through poly hell before, and I don’t think it applies to our situation currently. However, lots of the emotions the article discussed are some of the things I have been feeling. I’ll be sure to bring it up with him, albeit later when he’s...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    I’m glad to know I’m not alone. :) Sending you love if you need some. I’m doing better after this night, which is always how it seems to be. (No major life decisions past 8:00pm has saved me many times). Something that’s been helping me is imagining the parts of our future with this person...
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    a hard feelings evening...

    Hey, so I've been struggling a bit recently with how much easier polyamory seems to be for my partner than for me. He's recently gone on a trip to visit someone he had been considering as a partner (they have a history together, but it was long distance until now), and so far it seems to have...
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    Hello everyone :]

    Hi! I didn't get too deep into the specifics of my fears and issues as this is an introductory post and I didn't want to frontload my intro with too many deep delves into all the issues of my relationships. As for the sexual aspect of our relationship, me and my partner are both deeply queer...
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    Hello everyone :]

    Hello! I'm Nostalgia. I go by Nost in online spaces, usually. I'm a 20-year old guy in a relationship with my partner, 19M, for about almost a year and a half. We were both pretty clear from the get-go that an open relationship was something that was on the table, but we focused for the first...
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